On completion of my parents 25 yrs of wedding

A letter to my mom and dad, when i was away from them after my marriage (went to Dubai) on the occassion of their 25th wedding anniversary.
Dear Appa & Amma,



Here comes the D-day……………..full of silver……….……………………


U both are in the threshold of your Silver wedding anniversary. Both of you have travelled together 25 years of life full of joy, happiness, sorrow and the list is never-ending. Through joy and through tears you have remained these years a precious treasure to one another. Together you have raised a family, and built a beautiful married life. Nowadays it's strange to see a marriage such as this one that spans 25 years of wonderful wedded bliss.
With much joy and thanksgiving do we salute you today, knowing your love and support are what have set me and my sister on our way.

Everything we are, what good we have done are from values you've taught. Thank you for being there all our life and we hope you'll always know that forever we are grateful and we will always love you so.

Marriage...Is having someone to share your dreams with, someone to live your life with. Someone to walk and talk with through the years...Someone you can turn to, someone you can run to, someone so close you taste each other's tears...Someone who'll stand beside you, someone whose hand will guide you through good or bad times, happiness or sorrow...... A life of love together, a love that spans forever, a bridge across today to God's tomorrow.

We both are proud to be your children!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! No regret right from the beginning till now. ‘Cause you didn’t allow us to feel so………even though if it is very tough time for both of you to manage mentally, physically, financially etc. and out of the way you both have made an effort to satisfy us and you have done it.

Everybody used to tell that you both had brought up your children without showing what difficulty is. Yes it is true. Many times we both have also felt the same. The affection and the bonding became more and more. Especially for me it is too difficult to withstand life without you both and I didn’t mean my sister can, she will also be in the similar state of mind after her marriage when she is away from you.

A lot to write about, but too much of sugar will spoil the whole dessert, so I will conclude.

Ever loving daughters

Very nice and heartfelt one.
I thoroughly enjoyed reading it. Reminded me of my parents.

Hi Anitha,

A good one. Am sure this letter will the best ever gift for parents.

Bye

Dear Anitha
happy to read the lovely letter. ur parents, u & kavitha r really lucky. have a gr8 moments ahead like this.

Hai Viji, Saraswathi, Ria,

Thanks for ur msgs. The letter itself might tell you that how i missed them!!!!!!!!

thought of just sharing with my friends.

thank u once again.

Hi, I did something similar a few years ago. I emailed everyone I know the below email.

Hello dears, Mom and Dad are celebrating their 30th Wedding Anniversary. And wishing to do something that really surprises them, I made the below page last night. Read it if you have time. I wish to bombard them with wishes from everywhere and everyone they have ever known. All you need to do is to write a line or two sending them your wishes today. I hope you will take a minute to send them your wishes.

I content of the page I made goes something like this...

My Parents 30th Wedding Anniversary

That was June of 1975. Two young people aged 22 and 17 started their lives as a couple - not knowing anything about their future. Well that's how it all started. A long, hard, happy, tough journey of 30 years! In these 30 years, together they saw love, they saw hardship, they learned to work hard, they learned to be patient, they struggled, they triumphed, they laughed, they cried, they rejoiced, they saw their nest filled with their kids laughter and years later they also felt the loneliness of that empty nest with heavy hearts.. Feels like they have gone through everything, a middle class Indian couple wanting success in their lives and the Best for their kids, go through. And now after 30 years here they are..Satisfied that all their kids settled down well and waiting for their first two grand kids at once.. This is the story of my parents. A wonderful couple, about whom saying anything would be less. In less than 5 years they were married, they had us - three girls. At 22 years old, before my dad could finish his Bachelors in Medicine (MBBS) halfway through, apart from being a full time student, he had to work part-time as medical practitioner for my milk bottles and school fees. And while he worked hard to provide comforts for the family, my 18-year-old mom made a comfortable home for us three girls. If we learned fighting attitude, hard work and confidence from our dad at young age, we learned patience, perseverance, hard work and cool thinking from our mom in our teen ages. They both taught us how to love, to be affectionate and friendly with everyone. What we are now- is totally because of them. In 1980, struggling to make a name in the society with my dad's profession, my parents built their own hospital starting from nothing. They worked - worked 24 hours a day -7 days a week, constantly being stressed out by untimely patients and uncouth lenders. Yet they survived and they stood through the process. They served poor with free treatment in villages for years and struggled hard for their own success. Less did they know that it was only the beginning.. Did I mention that while managing the kids, home and the hospital, my mom took up her Bachelors in Science and graduated! By the time they were feeling that they were doing OK, their oldest daughter - that's me; came of age and also to high school education. Now they had to make a choice between their profession, income OR their daughter's future. And without a blink, they opted for their daughter's education and future. They were ready to let go their busy hospital and all their years of hard work for their kids' future. It must be the toughest decision they must have made till then. But it is the best decision they have ever made. With everything packed, they took their kids and left for Hyderabad, ready to start everything all over again. The next few years were a struggle, they wouldn't have imagined. Traveling long distances every day in trains and buses in the heat of south India, my dad worked as a civil surgeon for the government in the mornings and treated patients in his private practice in the evenings. No matter how far he traveled, he had to come home at the end of the day to be with his wife and kids. My mom took up a job as a science teacher in a private school in the mornings and in the evenings she assisted my dad at the clinic. And this is all - while she cooked, cleaned and fed her husband and three college going girls, who never went into kitchen to help her. I still remember the many nights, my parents sat up fanning their sleeping daughters with a hand fan or killing the mosquitoes biting us..during the numerous power cuts of Hyderabad Summers. Some times, I still long for the food from my dad's plate, for the way he mixes and matches different tastes. And mom's home cooking is just a gift from God! Those endless silly laughs and stupid jokes...well we all had fun with eachother. As they say, hard work pays off somewhere along your life, my parents dreams were realized when they brought their own apartment in Hyderabad and when all their girls got into professional studies. That gave them more encouragement to work hard and harder. And soon the girls finished their Bachelors and were ready for Masters in their individual disciplines abroad. First I left to US for my Masters in Civil Engineering and a few years later my next sister left to UK for Masters in Physical Therapy and my youngest sister, had to leave the city for her MBBS (Bachelors in Medicine). Our parents were happy but had the toughest time of their lives with the empty nest. In 2002, they got two of their three daughters married in a short period of 15 days (Imagine the expenses of typical Indian weddings and 600 guests per wedding!). And while supporting their youngest daughter with her Medical education expenses, my parents brought their zeal for higher studies alive. My dad graduated with an MD, Biochemistry in his early 50's, while my mom completed her Masters of Arts in English in her late 40's. Aren't they amazing!! My husband and I and my sister and her husband are going to have kids in less then 2 weeks. And if we can put - as much as, half the effort our parents put on us to give us the best and to make us successful, happy individuals, I consider that my sister and I along with our husbands - Successful. Putting aside their personal wants, needs and dreams, they struck together all these years enduring and coming through each other's arguments, irritations, dissatisfactions and worries, just for the sake of their kids. Now unknowingly they seem to be so dependent of each other, that I feel guilty separating them in the name of our babies. They have never been apart a single day in all these years. And now, for our babies - my dad will be with me in US, while I deliver my baby, while my mom will be with my sister in UK, while she delivers hers. I wish, my sisters and I would have that zeal for continuous learning as my parents have and I hope we would never stop satisfied with our current education. Looking back, after everything they have gone through together all these years, this trip to their daughters in US and UK (first time ever out of south India and out of their busy lifestyles) - I am hoping it would give them the break, they need and should give them the happiness they deserve with their daughters, sons-in-law and their first grandkids. So everybody - Please join me in congratulating my parents on June 29, 2005 for their 30 years of marriage and for all the success in their lives and for their happiness's. Mom and Dad, Have a wonderful 30th Wedding Anniversary and Congratulations for celebrating it together and with at least one of your daughters in one of the beautiful cities in the world - London. May God bless you with more success and more happiness for coming years and may you spend more loving days together for many more years. And last but not least - Thanks always for everything you did for my sisters and me. We Love You. Your's loving daughters This was my letter in 2005. Now our girls are 2 1/2 years old & they chat with their Ammamma & Thatha..every day :)

Hai Venonimiss

Great yaar, its very good.........touched me..............

Hai anitha and venonimiss,

Both of you have brought out lovely feelings in your letters.. thanks for sharing.....

Hai shanthi,

thanks for ur appreciation.

Thanks for the comments Honeytha and Shanvy...

My parents had a wonderful surprise on their 30th Wedding Anniversary that year. Can you believe that more than 60 people I know, emailed my parents, introducing themselves and wishing them!! Also...one good part was...in many of those emails..there was a line or two praising me..(Which was a bonus for me )

Hmm..cannot end this post without mentioning the saying..

'A son is a son till he gets married, but a daughter is a daughter for life'

(No offense to any loving sons who take care of their parents all their lives. My dad is one such son!)