The Chosen One!

Very apt for the current situation where girls are more independent and do not want to sacrifice their freedon for the sake of marriage.

So they are ok to marry only if the guy will allow them to continue their freedom.

If you think about it, those days women had no choice.

That is why they stayed even with abusive husbands all their life.....because they did not have the money to raise the kids by themselves not because they loved their husband.

And the justice system had not caught up with divorce issues much. So men could escape without paying alimony and women were scared and lived with him.

But on the outside, those marriages looked stable and happy.

But this generation does not want to put up a show. They want real happiness and companionship from their husband or they do not want anything.

However the only thing that refuses to change is the wagging tongue that keeps asking stupid questions Vijima ...they can just spoil our peace of mind for no reason.

 

True Vijima...

Now a days girls dont want to get into marriage as they think they will get added responsiblity and have to sacrifice their life.

They think that being single is fine as they can enjoy their self as they wish.

 

Yes Vijima. Times are changing. Life is changing. Men and women are independent and have their own fixed views. Adaptibility is on the wane. Therefore many wish to be on their own and may be it is not such a bad idea after all. It is better than getting married and then being eternally at loggerheads. Somehow most Indian marriages seem to be more about the parents and pils rather than about the man and woman getting married and inevitably seem to be ending up in fights. It seems to degenerate into issues of your parents vs my parents. Isn't it better that these people stay single with their parents rather than fighting over them?

 

I have two girlfriends who are in their early 30's and both of them do not want to marry, for different reasons though. One of my girlfriend says that she is waiting for the right person and would rather wait, while my other friend is skeptical because of a very bad past relationship. However, both are under tremendous pressure from their family and friends, who are married. My heart goes out to both of them, they are both educated, have good jobs, and in their own words they are very happy in life but because of the constant focus on them not being married they are now becoming frustrated and depressed.
I think marriage, whether arranged or love, is a matter of choice. While some of us are ready for it, some others are not why not let them be and give them the space rather than subject them to constant scrutiny

 

Hi,

Of all said and done marriage needs some adjustments, compromises with each other, with each other's families, at least in India...for both boys and girls. If they are not prepared for that and always think I and me, it is better to enjoy the independence which they have and not get into frustrations later. Financial independence gives the choice to many.

Syamala