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As Another valentines day goes by, I was going home as usual. When I walked towards the subway station, I could see men in suits as well as casuals, are waiting at the doors of buildings with bouquets of red roses. They were waiting for their valentines to present their love roses in surprise, when they are out from work. ,I could see women and men coming with a bouquet of flowers or Godiva chocolates goody bag or some nicely decorated goody bag. People were walking hurridly towards the train station. And the side walks were little more crowded than usual. I am an early bird to the office and home . So that there wont be any delays in the transit and I can avoid the morning/evening rush. I could not see any Indians in any of the groups. You cannot say Indians are like coconut in the "puttu" here. The city where I am in, have one of the most diverse demographics in US. Whites, Afro Americans, Chinese, koreans, Russians, Japanese, Indians; list goes on. I know Indian men never want to waste their " valuable time" waiting for their wives or going home early to have a nice evening with family. They would rather fix a bug in the legacy code which nobody can understand or will finish some work so that they can have more tomorrow.
I asked one of my american colleagues on the morning, if women give gifts to men on V'day always as men do. He said its mostly men who are giving gifts to their lover and wife. It's more like taker to giver(one who is putting more in a relationship), where men compensates his mistakes of a year to his wife/lover.
We all know in American society, if women are emotionally not satisfied, they are daring to seek divorce. So it makes sense where husband wants to apologies and compensate. On the other hand, all our men are secured in the marriage. Everyone knows his wife will be a hutch dog unless he physically abuse her badly or do something seriously wrong. A women coming out of marriage due to emotional unhappiness is considered ridiculous in India. So Valentine's day is not on their list. It's not that they are afraid of shivsena. What more shivsena people can do other than getting them married that they already did.
PS: I am not a V'day supporter or anything. Just inspired by some threads of marriage forum in IL