Youuuu Asian Parents...

hi Aruna,

I never have difficulty saying no. in my case..everything is routed back to me..ultimately i am the dreaded(??) person..at home....
Your son is into teens yaar..mine is just 9..he asks for reasons....kids are smarter even the day they are born..not like us..who used to follow without a whimper....right.....

Yes Shanthi I agree to you at your son's age he use to listen but now for each and everything he wants an explanation and I sometimes find it difficult explaning it to him.
yeh even today we listen to our elders with asking .............why??

Originally Posted by shanvy

hi Aruna,

I never have difficulty saying no. in my case..everything is routed back to me..ultimately i am the dreaded(??) person..at home....
Your son is into teens yaar..mine is just 9..he asks for reasons....kids are smarter even the day they are born..not like us..who used to follow without a whimper....right.....

Originally Posted by shanvy

hi sharada,

I am happy to know that you are SO SURE... i agree with your

Mokkai vonganidi maanai vongunaa?..chala nijamandi.... the same in tamil is 5 la valayathathu, 50 thil valayathu...My kids know i mean no when i say it....the second time I say with a Stress as "Capital N O." it means a definite no...and when i call them by their full name along with their surname, it means i have reached by saturation point..on the matter...small cues...that goes a long way for me....(Daughter understands, it is tough with my son..who needs explanations for everything.)

hi shanvy,
to you.
every parent has his/her own frequncy with the kids. My cue to the kids is, I go stand square and straight right in front of them and in a very low, hardly audible voice say "I said I don't want to repeat it. which part of the sentence you didn't unserstand?" Mind you, this works mostly with my son. My daughter, 4 yr old (she likes to say she is almost 5 yrs) needs more reasoning! I am more patient with her..

every parent/every kid/every situation is different. As they say in Tamil:
Veetekku Veedu vaasapadi
What is right for me may not be so for you. But Youuuuu (we) Asian parents .... will definitely survive. I'm So Sure!

Regards,
Sharada