A few changes I would like to see from Indians (in India as well as living abroad)

A few changes I would like to see from Indians (in India as well as living abroad)

Just a wish list. I'd like to articulate these better, for lack of time, I'll list them here, and will elaborate as time permits.

1. Parents should adopt the mentality that they are not "responsible for match finding for their kids". I hope in the long run this will stop the Arranged Marriage system. Let kids find their own partners, or be single - it is upto them. I have never understood why parents have to take responsibility for arranging marriages - the responsibility of the parents is to teach kids values and ability to judge situations, and how to be independent.

2. Academics is not everything. There is sports, there is trade, there are thousands of things. Dont force kids to "study, study, study".

3. Do not compare, and do not force kids or yourselves into Rat-race.

4. Stop thinking money is the most important thing in life. (This applies to people of all countries, not just Indians, I suppose).

5. Shed some ultra conservatism, in the form of upholding heritage and values. Be a decent and good human being - that is the utmost reflection of heritage and values.

6. Teach children Dignity of Labor and practice the same yourselves.

Will pen down few other points later, when I get some more time.

 

Re: A few changes I would like to see from Indians (in India as well as living abroad

Who knows how long it will take for this wish list to happen in reality? Will it happen in our lifetime or not?

Neverthless, does not harm to write them down

Add to the list. Write your own list in this thread, feedbacks, whatever welcome :cheers

 

Re: A few changes I would like to see from Indians (in India as well as living abroad

No, peartree.

I want parents to set expectations in children that they will be responsible for their life-after-they-become-adults - they will be still be there to offer support, but kids need to own deciding on whether they want marriage, who they should marry etc. Obviously, I dont expect this change to happen in just 10 years or 15 years.

My wish is that it happens in the next 30-50 years! Thats a long timeframe for the change to be completed! rsk: this is not a "shortterm" wish. I know it cant happen for the current teenagers, but what abt the children who are not even born yet, or the not-yet-born grandchildren of the children who are not even born yet! Far timeframe! LOL!

I want arranged marriage concept to end totally. Its a wish. I may or may not get to see that happen in any of our lifetime, but I can wish for it.

I am totally against both:
1. Parents forcing kids to marry who they choose
and
2. Kids expecting parents to "find them a partner"

I want the next gen Indian kids, boys and girls, to be very independent and drive their life and destiny in the direction they want from a young age.

Parents are not responsible for that, what they are responsible is to teach children the right things, and then let them live their lives.

 

Re: A few changes I would like to see from Indians (in India as well as living abroad

Thanks radhika,
And yes both the things you have listed are great points :thumbsup

 

Re: A few changes I would like to see from Indians (in India as well as living abroad

Very good points PearTree.
BTW - regarding work ethic, I sometimes feel Indians (some) have too much work ethic to the detriment that they forget everything else Maybe I speak from some of my personal experience, LOL!

Value to human life - super! I missed that! and cust service is a nice one.

Thanks Kalyani, and yes its applicable to all, just that I think Indians may sometimes need more reminding in these aspects.