Letting it Be

Originally Posted by cheeniya

And remember to have that extra drink on me! We'll settle the bill when we meet a few months down the line!
Sri

Sri,

The pleasure will be mine, when we meet and have a drink with u in Chennai.Do u still drink? im a 365 days 2 pegs or one beer Guy.When wife cribs, i tell her its in my genes, bcs my dad was the same. So i am not to blame,

Thanks and regards.kamal

Dear Kamalji
What do you mean by 'You still drink?' What do you think I do otherwise?
Sri

Sri,

I always ahve the impression that South Indian are pious souls meant for heaven,who dont drink and eat meat.So i assumed that u may be an occasional drinker I hope yr wife dosnt mind u drinking.Sweet dreams.Regards.kamal

Kamalji,

That is the most thoughtful piece of work from a male I have ever come across... Mrs. Kamal is sure a lucky lady... When you both have worked out such a successful formula for sustaining a marriage...Why let it be? You have to tell the world about it! Collars up! friend!

Very true KamalJi ! I agree to all your points. In my case to top it all it is an intercast marriage. I am marathi and my hubby is punjabi. But never ever we try to impose each other's customs on each other. or try to change anything in each other. We both give space to each other. People change automatically once they start living together. And we dont even come to know that we have changed ourselves. it is such a gradual process. and it should be that way. Any drastic changes are injurious to a happy married life. It is just a matter of time. I am still carrying my father's surname even after 3.5 years.
Better understanding and respect towards each other is the most important thing in a successful marriage.

Originally Posted by twinsmom

Kamalji,

That is the most thoughtful piece of work from a male I have ever come across... Mrs. Kamal is sure a lucky lady... When you both have worked out such a successful formula for sustaining a marriage...Why let it be? You have to tell the world about it! Collars up! friend!

Vijuji,

Thanks for yr kind comments.In fact i am lucky that she lets me be.I am not an easy guy to be with. Regards.kamal

Originally Posted by Monsi

Very true KamalJi ! I agree to all your points. In my case to top it all it is an intercast marriage. I am marathi and my hubby is punjabi. But never ever we try to impose each other's customs on each other. or try to change anything in each other. We both give space to each other. People change automatically once they start living together. And we dont even come to know that we have changed ourselves. it is such a gradual process. and it should be that way. Any drastic changes are injurious to a happy married life. It is just a matter of time. I am still carrying my father's surname even after 3.5 years.
Better understanding and respect towards each other is the most important thing in a successful marriage.

Monsi,

thats very sensible what u are doing.God bless u.Regards.kamal

Kamalji,

Your post reminds me of a pani puri vendor in Vishakapatnam who financed the education of his wife in an Engineering College. When he got married to his wife she had just finished her school education and wished that she should continue her studies. The man who himself did not have much education wanted to fulfil his young wife's wishes and saved every rupee that he earned for her education. She did not let him down too. She valued his hard earned money and was a topper all through that landed her a job in Infosys. This is such an inspiring story of live and let live.

Dear Kamalji,

What you have said is true. My wife wanted to devote her life working for women and she being a lawyer she started working in family courts, law firms, law journals etc. I allowed her to do what she likes. Now, for the last four years I am abroad at London, Melbourne and now at Washington, U.S.A. She could have joined me and enjoyed life, seen around the world etc. but still she prefers working for women. She came to U.S. recently. But. could not stay for long as she started getting e-mails, phone calls etc. about pending cases in the court. I have allowed her to let be although it is dreadful to stay alone for me. In IL I find a big family and interacting with them drives out my loneliness.

Regards,

TDU

Nivediji,

What a great example u have given.I did not know this.Wow.The man is next to God,better than any preacher or priest.Hats off to this man,so much to learn from people who we think are not educated.They can teach us a thing or two of life.

Thanks and regards.kamal