Urgent help : what is school counseling

Hi friends
we are in bay area.
My son has started Kindergaten in the last week of Aug. On friday we received a letter from school, saying he needs counseling at school.
His teacher didn't tell anything about it.
What will they do for a 5 1/2 year old for counseling?
I feel very depressed and I am really scared about this.
I am scared that whether they will isolate him at class,
friends pls help me

Krithiga,

no need to worry about this. my son got 'counselling' (or rather we did) at 3.5 years:) basically at the first parent-teacher meet the teacher told us he had difficulty following rules, had a lot of temper (he would scream and throw things if something didn't happen the way he wanted) and had trouble concentrating. once we agreed the therapist observed him in school, the situations that made him difficult to handle. then she talked to us on where we had such difficult instances with him at home. then she talked to us as to how to react, where to be very firm and how to set rules. the sitting helped us and our boy a lot. he has really improved a lot.

it's very normal for a parent to panic and wonder why such a small child needs counselling, therapy. but these days we are fortunate to identify little challenges and seek help.

ask the teacher on what context he needs counselling. as a parent it's your right to know. and if you too agree that he needs help don't deny him that.

Latha

Thank you very much Latha.
Today I talked to the teacher, she said he is not following instructions, not sitting in one place during projects etc. By the weekend I will meet the counselor and tend to know more about it then we will decide.

Krithiga,

These are the same issues my son had too. He was in a day care first where he could run around to his free will. then he joined a montessori preschool. and that's where he simply couldn't adhere to rules. at home too he was like that but you know we all said 'he's a very active boy'.. he doesn't have any medical complaints like hyper-activity, lack of concentration. it's just that we've to change the way we parent them to make them better. so don't worry. my son has improved a lot and he's the darling of his teacher now. they don't isolate the child rather they identify why he lacks that concentration and give us simple tips from a therapist point of view. good luck:)

Latha

Hey !

I am a counsellor by profession , and i am happy to see indian mothers getting more aware about counselling and actually initating the process.

you mentioned why would a 51/2 year old child need counselling , there are many techniques or games through which the counsellor can help the child learn these small skills like concentrating etc .. where the child might learn some very helpful skills through play.

Such probelms are best solved when identified early in life .

Hope he is doing better :) God bless !!!!

Love,
Rehirani

Thank you Latha

Latha ,
What did you do to improve your son's listening skills?
Pls give me some tips.

Right now we are reading to him lots of books.he is very interested in that.
Then we are going to Kumon class for math, it makes him to sit and do his home work every day, but each day he starts with no, I can't do it.I have to encourage him, finally bribe, finish it you can TV for 1/2 an hour.
Then we are going to Swimming class.
Then I making him do some coloring at home. he is also interested in thinking skills work sheets of his age.

Originally Posted by rehirani

Hey !

I am a counsellor by profession , and i am happy to see indian mothers getting more aware about counselling and actually initating the process.

you mentioned why would a 51/2 year old child need counselling , there are many techniques or games through which the counsellor can help the child learn these small skills like concentrating etc .. where the child might learn some very helpful skills through play.

Such probelms are best solved when identified early in life .

Hope he is doing better :) God bless !!!!

Love,
Rehirani

Hi Rehirani,
You have mentioned that you are a counsellor. Can you tell me what I can do at home to improve his listening skills and following directions
Thank you in advance