How can i help my son???

Hi Vijeta,

You have mentioned that your son is very brilliant and then you say that he dosen't do anything or listen to anyone.

Please ponder over the foll points:

- Since how long has he been behaving in this manner??
- Did any incident happen before his behaviour changed
- have you been nagging him too much
- do both of you give him enough quality time to your son.
- do you guys pressurise him to do/perform better.


I am sure other moms would also give their valuable inputs. But atleast start with the above points and be honest in answering them.

If you get a clue from that great otherwise we will work further on this.

All the best
Roopa.

 

Hi Vijeta,
I would suggest that you take your son to a counsellor or get an assessment done . This will show if he is dyslexic or has any other such small problems which could be easily rectified with help. Do get in touch with your paed. and he will suggest the right person to be contacted.
My son used to be very restless and uncontrollable. I was upset and insisted that he be tested and then we found that he had Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder. Then I took the help of psychiatrist and now he is in the Plus 2 and has come over all those problems. Please act immediately.

 

Dear Vijeta
Take him immediately to a doctor. He may be a dyslexic. Pls done hurt him, beat him or keeps on scolding him.
All the best
Uma

 

Hi Vijeta,

Does your son know that you are not his biological parents??
Do you treat your daughter and son at par. Does he feel neglected.
Talk to him and ask him what he wants to do in life. Many may feel its too early to ask such questions...but today the kids are very clear as to what they want.
Does his own parents live with you or you live separately.
Maybe you can take help of a child counsellor.
How does he behave in school.

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Hi Vijetha,
Like Roopa have asked you, I too have the similar questions. If he is your adopted son, have you told him that he is so. How he is calling his own biological parents and you both.

You have said that you live in a joint family, then I assume that his parents also are in the same house, if so how is his relationship with them. Does he sleep with them or with you or does he have a separate room.

If you could answer me these questions, I think I could discuss some more details with you.

All at the same time, like Varloo and Uma have suggested you could also take him to a doctor. But before taking him there, you need to make analysis of your own and also of him. As Roopa have said, you could ask him what he really wants and why he is so.

More over you say that if you ask him water he says that his legs are paining, let me ask you do you ask your daughter also to bring you water at times? Also do you compare your son with your daughter?

Pls answer me these questions.