How to make my son understand things?

I don't have experience to advise. I can never wake up at 5 am and study. But I can study till 2 am. So if your son has this late night studying habit, it would be difficult to change. Other members will give better tips. Good Luck.

 

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all the best. you didnot mention if it is icse or cbse.

Actually for a moment forget your tension, the stress. just enjoy your son. he is childish in his behaviour that is fine, i have seen many who are childish even after marriage . that said i find lot of the kids in my son's class having fun. some times it feels so silly and you wish that they act mature. but i also believe maybe they are just taking it easy under all the pressure academics puts on them. being argumentative is the way of life at this phase. do go with the flow. i make fun, or we just have the same silly arguments and if it goes to serious issues, time out..and discuss it later.

how do you know he does not know things, that he does not know that whatever you are trying to tell him is for his good. but you have to understand sometimes, trying too much to push your thoughts, wishes can back fire. he will rebel, he will retaliate differently.

most teens are wired to sleeping in the mornings, especially boys, their body works that way (though these days it is the girls too..) let him sleep and study accordingly.

Tell me one thing hema, if you are sleepless, worried or full of tension, you are not helping anyone. i am sure you are making it difficult for your child too.

i think it is you who needs to change a little to bring in positive changes for your son.

do not show your tension. pick up some reading, music to remove the restless out of your mind.

remember that getting 100% in studies is good, but if he cannot get that it is ok. keep a list of alternatives in mind. keep track of those alternatives from december 2015.

see to that he eats healthy and does not have junk.

talk to him about how you are feeling worried, stressed. that you have confidence in your son, but are worried about the cutoffs for seats in du colleges..(assuming you are in du). talk to him about his future plans and work around those accordingly.

I know getting b.com in these colleges is more tougher than getting into engineering colleges these days. (I went through the strain of it with my daughter 3 years back..)

Go with the flow, and help him. all the best to you.

P.S. my son too is in the 12th science stream, and believe me i have loads of worries regarding his examination and college, but i do not pressurize him because i know, it is going to add more pressure. instead i tell him, give his best and let us wait for the rest..

 

one of the best advice/suggestion I recd when my kids were going through this stage was: 'you only see your kid from when he comes home in evening till bedtime so you want to ask them about studies for those 3-4 hours. but try to remember-- it is only 3-4 hours of your whole day for you. Your kid is facing this pressure/tension/competition from the time he wakes up and goes to school, in school in classes, from classmates comparing marks, from teachers handing back tests, then from you after coming home, till he sleeps. from waking moment to sleeping moment he is facing this all the time. so try to give him a break.'

These words opened my eyes and made me realize. I changed the way I talked to them and in turn when they saw I am not continuously lecturing/pushing them to study they too started sharing more.

OP, why is he so sleepy every morning? if he is so sleepy in morning then he is not sleeping? he is not getting proper rest. Does he study at night? Or maybe trying to and unable to due to worry. try to be friendly and find out what is going on.