My Daughter...

Hi rachaputi,
I think u should try to talk to your child again and try to find out the real problem. If its just that she doesn't like school, ask her the reasons. Then tell her why school is important and fun. Encourage her to make friends. Request her teachers to involve her in more extra curricular activities. All along, keep track of her and guide her into making good friends and participating in more events in school. Once she makes friends and has a sense of belonging and remains busy, she won't like to stay at home

 

To make 8 year old understand is difficult but not impossible...you have to be patience and try to ask her the problem...make her understand the positive and negative effect of her behavior ..

if possible invite her friends to home ..arrange little party with her friends at home ...involve yourself with her friends ...try to maker yor kid comfortable with other kids...but for that you need to speak to other kids..

share your happy days of school with you kid...at this age they need more attention and care ....to find the solution try to understand the problem first

hopw this works

 

Is she having the same "missing feeling" in other places other than School. You said she was okay at her grand mother's place. How about other places?
You may try to see this by sending her to extra classes like "music, sports, swimming or language" on the weekends?
If she is having the same problem over the period of time, whereever she goes, then she needs some help. Help in the sense to understand her problems, and give her the assurance in a more professional way.

However, I know some kids have this school phobia. They will hate the school, just the school only. That too for sometimes.

I remember meeting some kids of this sort before. But this will eventually fade away when she finds some good friends, good company in the bus or a best teacher-friend. It will happen for sure, but sometimes it may take a while. Many such kids turn out to be normal, and loving their school like others.

This is the problems with kids. If they feel uncomfortable, they will immediately start missing their moms. As if their moms are the only comfort zones for them. That is also true in a way.
I think your little one is not comfortable in her school. It may happen due to the changes (time, class room, friends, teachers etc...). Till she is comfortable, she will continue to miss you.

Speak to her teacher. Try to be friend with her teacher, and ask her to be extra caring to your daughter to make her comfortable there. Once she is okay with the teacher, she will be fine.

 

It may also be because of the new place.. everything is new to her - new place, environment, school, friends... she might take little more time to get used to. have patience rp. nothing to worry. if possible, talk to her teacher once and take her help. visit her once during school time - this will make her happy., and she might be back to normal again. cheer up girl hugsmiley

 

Rachaputi,

Did you ask her why she cries, straight. talk to her. tell her amma also misses her babies, but amma also has the responsiblity of bringing up her children in the best possible way. she has to send them to school and give them better opportunities to do better.

don't go teary seeing her sad face, tying her to your invisible apron strings..let go and allow her to be independent. sometimes as parents we need to be a little firm and a little hard on ourselves for the sake of the kids..

Now coming to crying at school..maybe the school takes her out of her comfort zone. is it a bigger school and a different medium. does she have any issues with regards to learning, like writing slow or handling instruction. something that triggers a fear and need for security.

at 8, your daughter can talk to you clearly about what is happening. the clue must be there in all that you have observed. only thing is that you need to pin-point or understand..


longer hours means longer studying, longer writing and performance..there is something there ...if she was having separation anxiety, it would surface even if she was with her grandma. so it is something linked to studies/school is my opinion.


make a check list in your mind. and cross them out..

 

each kid takes different time to adjust rp. My friend's daughter used to cry a lot every year when the school reopens. she is in the same school since nursery but still the section changes every year which is the reason for her cry. and this continues atleast till 1st term completes ie till sept/October. so give her time to adjust, let her do things she likes to do. slowly she will start going to school with a smiling face :thumbsup