I am proud to be uncool.

Who thinks I am uncool???….who else but my so-called cool kids! May be they don’t say it out, but I get those vibes.
My car is always in a mess from the inside, grocery coupons, gymnastic costumes, tennis shoes, swimming kits etc....) But then the mess is caused by their chaotic stuff. Can’t balme me. Whereas I go bonkers when they leave their bath towel on the floor, don’t carry their plate off the table, leave lights on, forget to do tidy up their study table….presuming that the maid will clear up after them. I go mad. Is that being uncool and unfair?
In my “youth”, wait a sec…youth in (" ") for special emphasis and past tense, …for, my kids think I am a real oldie now…… Well, how young do they supposed I can possibly be with my oldest one 12 yrs…unless I had eloped with a vagabond in my teens?
Ok…let me continue…in my youth, I used to be glitzy and lively…attended a respectable school…..was the head-girl, did fairly well in both curricular and co-curricular activities, had an appropriate university education. Neither was I the plain Jane. So does my heart bleed when I am called uncool. In fact NO…in essence, I’m an uncool mom and I’m proud of this status. WHY?.... It may give you a few minutes of peace by saying yes to everything your child wants, but in the long run, it’s crippling your child from gaining real-world coping skills, diluting their ethics, not to mention squashing your own needs as your life centers around the child. Remember, as a smart, caring parent of a growing child, you are not trying to win a popularity contest, you are just trying to be a proper parent.
I have set bed-times, meal etiquettes, self-study-routine (no spoon feeding, you want to succeed then work towards success on your own terms, we as parents can just support you from the background). If you have a party at home make sure its during spring/winter/summer breaks and all the friends are out by 10 pm latest. Also if you attend a party the pick up time is never going be later than 9.30 pm. Wear modest clothes, you can be killer-fashionable within the limits of decency. Carry yourself about in a respectable manner, be smart yet polite, be a responsible global citizen. If asking for all this is being uncool, then I am pleased with this title.
I am not defending over protectiveness, neither do I belong to that breed of over-protective parents who control the lives of their wards through remote control. Parents who complete homework for their kids. Who always take their kids' lunches to them at elementary school when they forget their lunch bags. Who fight their child's teacher every time the child gets in trouble in class. Who sue the school because their child gets kicked off a school sports team for blatantly disobeying the rules. Parents who are in constant, micromanagement contact with their children via cell phone to the point that the kids never have to make decisions on their own. Who show up on college campuses to argue about grades with their child's teacher. I don't get it and I am certainly not one of them. Many of today’s parents were raised by “Greatest Generation” parents who had set for us a certain code of conduct. Do a few of today’s parents not like the way they turned out, and are doing everything the opposite…more liberal, no rules absolutely what so ever?
That being said, I am not so strict that I don't let my kids have any freedom. I am always looking for ways in which they can safely and sensibly have independence, entertainment, fun………….which some day I know they will realize was very cool.:spin:thumbsup

 

Dear happy2be
Thank you, you do not have to be sorry in the least....I agree to your views and loved your imput. The problem is kids do not understand what makes us being uncool...Eg: too much of TV; besides loosing precious time you end up with soda glasses at a pretty early age, which will make them look so Uncool...so for us, its rather that we be uncool than make them live an uncool life.
Wearing modest clothes, we want them as young kids to sent across the right message...we have perverts amidst us....while we cannot change the way these "one track minds" work, atleast we can have them dressed up decently (specially so when they are without our supervision)...again we come into their Uncool book of rules
So on goes the list.... thanks for sharing
Mega

 

Hi Mansi
Where have you been dear?...your charisma has made this thread worthwhile.
Hmmm...ask me.???..i am nodding my head in agreement.
What irks the most is when we are compared to the likes of "this cool mom" and "that "cool mom"!
Kidzz in general are over-smart, they think by rubbing on the wrong side we might develop wobbly limbs....mistaken they are!!!!
Mega

 

Hey Shanvvy
Thanks !
Smart little girl, your dd, i must say.God Bless.

Exactly, irrespective of the name, like Mansi too stated, we are determined to see that certain norms are executed...so they can do the christening with whichever name they deem apt...who cares......???Mega