In A Way I'm Like The Super Star!

dear mythili,
You are right. Even unpleasant truth can be communicated pleasantly. But in my anxiety I overstepped my limits. At one point in the fight the old man shouted at me in chaste English, "What is your problem, tell me." It was then I realised that I had gone overboard. Could not come back at that time.

I heard somebody day,"Even if you want to tell a peson to go to hell,tell in such a manner that the person looks forward to the journey".

You can do that. But the problem is that once you do that to a person, the next time, you tell him to go to heaven, he'll look at you with disgust. I have found in my experience, that when you want to communicate something unpleasant, do it an unpleasant voice and in an unpleasant style. But like Vidya said, we can bend a little, without breaking a lot.
Thanks to your prayers and those of all my friends here in IL, the incident ended well. Thank God the luggage rack became vacant at Trichy. Otherwise I would still be in debt to that old man.


thanks for the fb, Mythili.

regards,

Dear Varaloti Sir,
Another astounding write up and a very relatable one I must add.
At some point of life we have all been foolish enough to act with an inflated ego only to be deflated when you face GOD.!
Well I have heard about the humility of Rajnikant and many other stars. Living life ostentatiously to make a mark and masking yourself would only stifle the real you.After all how long can you put up a masquerade!!
When I find something really bad to handle as in some words flowing which shocks me I merely prefer to keep quiet. My Granny used to say "Maunam Vidhwana Bhushanam,so I prefer to be quiet!
A great person K along with a friend was once abused by somebody.K merely listened and said nothing. After a while this abuser stopped and walked away. K's friend asked him ,"why didnt you react"? K said, When you give me something and I dont accept it , to whom does it belong?" The friend said,"Back to me" ."Exactly my friend,thats the point he gave something I didnt accept so those abuses go back to him".
Its better to be quiet than say something you regret. After all we all know that spent arrows and spoken words cannot be taken back.
Sir I am very happy you accepted your fault and decided to do something about it. Helps remove the heaviness of your chest isnt it! The nagging feeling is gone and you are relieved. I feel many more of us should adopt the attitude of helping others .I guess we need to understand that there is so much happiness in giving! ITs almost like Moksh!
Vanities of Life are Fleeting.He only lives who lives for others , the rest are more dead than alive!!

Love,
Devika

Oh,dear Sridhar,
to day morning when I got up I was low in spirits,I don't know why.Read your post and am back to my normal self.Thank you for cheering me up.
Now that everybody knows that you are a fighting cock as well besides being a fantabulous writer,we still love you the way you are,a friend is a friend.No human being is perfect,if all of us were very perfect,there won't be any threads in il no?And we would all be angels not human beings.Every human being is a bundle of contradictionssometimes,embodiment of patience other times a short tempered bully.These variations in a persons moods also make life colourful I suppose.
All the best for a great day,may this and the coming days bring you success and joy only.
mithila kannan

Dear Malathi,

Your experience with Rajnikanth was a good read and served as a beautiful supplement to whatever I had told in this thread about him. When the eminent Jurist Palkivala was waitinng in the queue to board a plane, the head of the airport ran up to him and asked him to move ahead. The great man sternly refused and insisted on boarding with the 'Aam Jantha"

You are right. That happens more in places of worship than elsewhere. I should add a caveat here, Malathi. While we should be considerate, we should never give up our rights, especially in favour of those who want to usurp them just for their personal advantage. I could never tolerate somebody jumping in the queue.
When I was doing my SSLC I was standing in the queue to get tickets for the movie Thavapudhalvan. A policeman jumped the queue to get tickets for his boss. I was so wild with rage that in spite of my Dad's protests, I started shouting at him, you know, in English. As a policeman he could have done anything and got away from me. He did a strange thing. He told me softly,
"Thambi enakku ungala madhiri English pesa theriyadhu. Enga appan enna padikka vaikkala. Athaan inda velaikku vandhu yaarukko ticket vangittu irukken"
I was stunned into silence. Without a word I let him jump the queue.
But I still feel that we should stand for our rights but make an exception in deserving cases.
As this happens mostly in places of worship, like you, I have stopped going to crowded temples.

When you ask for material favours, SHE takes her own time to grant your prayers. But when you ask for more love, SHE gives it just like that.

I am happy you liked these lines. She has a very good reason for doing this. When it comes to material favours She thinks whether it will be good for us in the long run or not. But more love is good for us any day. So she grants that instantaneously.

This truth is the mother of all truths!

Thanks. It is so because it is the quality of God, our Mother.

By experience I have learnt that when we pretend to be good we try to continue that and it becomes our very nature. Now that you have confessed your misdeeds to us Ilites and also undone the wrong the same day, you have become a better human being and it is going to continue. The moment we realise what we are doing is wrong and start mending our ways, we are moving towards divinity.
This was a wonderful self-confession from a a man who claims It needs courage to make confessions!

Thanks for those wonderful words, malathi. I still have to make one more confession. Had this incident not had a happy ending, had I not corrected myself, would I have still written for all of you to read? I don't think so. That makes me just another man on the street.

thanks for the long fb, which added colour to this thread.
regards,



Regards,
Malathi[/quote]

dear pavithra,
thanks. I do not have any great messages to share with you, only simple home truths. At times it looks great in the light of circumstances.
One blessing is that I always know the mistakes I do. Many times I know my mistake even while I am doing that. But many times I could not correct myself. This time I could do that and hence I wrote the post. I think I should balance this with another post where I failed to mend myself.
thanks a lot for the nice words, Pavithra.
regards,

Originally Posted by pavithrasriram

dear vrlotti,
its indeed a great post!!!!
you seem to have the knack of putting forward great messages with a simple incident just like actor kalaivanar comedy with message for the public!!!!!
in these days people dont realise the mistakes they do!!!!but ur act really shows the real person who ur!!!
regards
pavithra

Dear Oviya,

Your best ever I read..

Thanks. But please pray that I should write something better.

The first part of your thread itself qualified to be a nice thread. So, when it continued my happiness doubled. We feel very comfortable with people who accept us as ourselves or we should learn how modestly we can be ourselves. As I already told,
you keep messeges all over your posts. I cherished all of those.

Thanks once again, Oviya.

Usually, people might want to do what you did. But, mostly comes the inhibition not to justify any hearty attempt. Your turned out to be a real superstar and showed a positive attitude towards life; an eye-opener for sure..

You are right, Oviya. All of us are inherently good. But we find it difficult to break the inhibitions. A few years back I was learning swimming. I was just learning to jump into water. The depth was 12 feet, almost twice my height. But I had learnt how to swim and survive in that depth. Even then I could not jump because there was an inherent fear. Then my instructor lost his patience and virtually pushed me into water. That was a real thrill. Once I learnt that I kept jumping again and again. It was such a nice experience. Same is the case with these small mistakes, asking apology and things like that.
11 years back we had a professional problem. A big company refused to pay us a huge amount due to us, because they said, that somebody from our office had shouted at them. The person who shouted at them did the right thing, because the answers the company gave were not responsible. But then when I visited them in person, they insisted that I should apologise to the lady executive; otherwise they wont pay. The person who came along with me told me, "Sridhar, dont do that. It will be beneath your stature."
I was hesitant at first. But remembered the swimming incident.
I went to the lady's room and told her that I really felt bad about what had happened. I told her that I am sorry and would like to apologise in any way she liked. I felt very good after saying that.
She just smiled and cleared the payment. The payment was not due to us but to another investor who had invested a huge amount in that company on my advice.

Thank you for the announcement of your next serial. Missed your last ones, as I couldn't find time to read at a stretch. Not a right excuse. Right? Sorry Varalotti. But, I wanted to speak the truth, just reading a related post. Hope to read sometime.

You are right. It's not a right excuse. You dont have to read it in a stretch. Read one episode and then read the next after a few days. At least read HE.

Want to say give us a good climax. But, don't want to set limitations for a good creator.

Thanks. When you dont set any limitations on the creator, you invariably get a good story and definitely a good climax. I always give my best to IL.

Once again...nice read...

thanks, again.
regards,

Dear Jey,
After reading your beautiful write-up I feel that yours should have been the leader post of this thread and my post just a fb to your wonderful post. As our master writer Vidya so clearly put it, you have a way with the words and I simply love it.

The way you confess I think you deserve the title superstar better than me. I was moved to tears reading about the incident in Turkey. I would love to immortalise that incident by writing a story on that. Do I have your permission for that, jey?

You are right about the feelings of the old man. He had a shocked look in his face for a long time and then went to sleep. But you should see the smile on his face when I asked him if I could place the luggage on the rack. he continued to smile for a long time. When the train touched Chennai Egmore half an hour behind schedule, I again volunteered to take his bags off the rack. Another person also joined me and he removed one bag, and I the other.
The old man mumbled a simple thanks to the other man. But to me he said an enthusiastic thanks. You see I am a bad guy reformed into a good one. And he wanted to encourage me. I got down from Vaigai with more love than when I got in. But how long will it last? Only She knows.

love,

Sriniketan,
thanks for understanding. You have touched another chord in me. While I am definitely not the ideal person I portray in my stories and serials, I at least want to be like that. I pray God that I should be made more loving. That seems like a high order even for the Almighty.
You are right. Incidents like these give unnecessary tension and many times spoil the whole day. The price we are paying is disproportionately high.

very well written, sridhar...

thanks a lot, Sriniketan.
regards,

Dear Mindi,
I was thrilled to know that you too had met our superstar and spent half an hour in his company. Great. It is better to be tongue-tied, Mindi, rather than regretting the words we had uttered to a person like Super star.
I too liked Kamla's incident. But I love her punch line. She says that she dished out the burnt piece to her hubby retaining the golden piece for herself. In the next line she says, that the golden piece had never tasted so awful. That speaks about her golden heart and the golden lesson hidden in the papad incident.

.I too have experienced that heaviness in heart when i have wrongly got angry and shouted at anyone..so u have taught me a very imp lesson.....oof..if only there was no such thing as an ego life would be much less complicated,no sir?.

So long as you feel heavy when you wrongly get angry, you are a very loving person, Mindi. I don't have to teach you a lesson. She will guide you through with Her loving hands.
thanks for the nice fb, Mindi.

Dear GF,
Being my GF I don't want you to carry any wrong thoughts about me. May be I narrated the incident because I had the rare privilege of rectifying the mistake. Had I not been able to correct my error, I would not have written about it at all. So please don't judge me based on this.
Out of a hundred mistakes I commit every day, I have been able to rectify only about five or six. I want you to carry this proportion in your mind, while making value judgments on me.
This incident is just a tip of the ice berg, a good tip at that. The whole of the iceberg is surely not as good as the tip, which I have cared to show to you all.

I do not know about Rajnikant....For me, you are the Hero....

This I accept because you are my GF and I, your BF. A friend always appear like a hero, even though he does some villanous acts. That's because of the love and affection.

Thanks for teaching us an important lesson in co-existing in harmony with our fellow beings..

You are most welcome, GF.
love,
Your BF