forum to improve ourself

haai,

Why cant we start a forum to improve ourself. That is to gain self confidence, to come out from a small circle like inlaws problems and others, to give counselling in general that is like facing the world that is most of the ladies are not aware of how to face the world outside and the challanges and competitions outside . to motivate them and to anallyse the inner qualities and taking out the unwanted qualities. I dont know how to explain but i know u will get my point.

Dear Pragadha,

a very nice forum. i am a trainer and my main speciality is motivating people, helping themgain self confidence and self esteem and teaching communication skills.

the first step for every woman is to communicate, sometimes we go out to a party and dont know anyone there, what you have to do is try to break the ice.
likesaying
extend your hand out for a hand shake and say
hi, i am so and so. i am so and so's wife. and yu are?
it's a pleasure meeting you.

most indian ladies thati have come across have a lot of knowledge but do not have the self confidence to talk.
After thesmall talk you get to know the other lady and you might have exchanged phone numbers, wheni a party or a gathering move around and start smiling at people who look at you and just saying to the other person howare you?

now lets take an example you are in a supermarket and there is something wrong in the packaging or thestaff has been rude to you, do not say anything to them immediately walk tothe customer service counter ask for the manager and file a complaint and you will see action being taken immediately.

Ladies you need to be bold and start to think for yourselves.
Here in Nairobi i have seen a lot of expat wives who go to the supermarket with their DH who are doing the shopping not the ladies, it is a bit absur as the man is handling everything even the shopping list and i find it a bit wierd.

i once went to mobile provider to pay y bill and there wassomerthing wrong and i wans not being served due to onecashier and there was a big queue, i made so much of noise that the other counter had to be opened i called the manager and explained to him what was happening he immediately sorted out the problem and i wasserved that mistake was never made againand the cashiers were happy iwth the complaint i made as they were short staffed.

yes what u told wsas right many women dont have self confidence to communicate they are not bold enough to face any problem. Even i myself belong to this category. I just want to break it i want to come out with lot of potentialities. when i see others being bold and facing everything with courage and confidence i use to scold myself for being like this i will try to come out but sometimes i cant. I just want to improve my personality we can name this forum as personality development forum. YES I GOT IT

Hi Pragadha,

Very good idea and very good NAME suggestion.As Alpa said we most of the ladies have knowledge and we are exposing it,because we are thinking what others will think if i do that or this etc.,. even i myself think like this sometime and i too want to change this attitude.

We will come out and see the world instead of IL's problem etc., let us forget it and concentrate our outer part of the world.

I think i didn't mention anything wrong in itbonk

Hi Pragadha,

As most of us are engrossed with family problems (especially due to in-laws!) , we tend to spend time unproductively. We struggle to find a solution for our family problems through out our lifetime. We need to change our focus on more useful activities. Ladies should spend more time on improving the knowledge by reading good books / watch informative TV channels and understand what is going on in the world. Once our vision becomes broader , we wont find time to brood over silly family problems.

Come on ILites, lets think and do some useful tasks which will bring more self confidence and joy to ourselves and others.. !