Personnel Management:

Learn to manage yourself first ! Personal management comes before personnel management.

Everyone is a manager because management is involved everywhere, be it a house or office or family or friends.
A manager is a leader and a leader must set an example.
Gita says

Yadacharathi sresthasatta devetaro janah
Sa yatpramanam kurute lokasthadanuvartate 3.27

Whatever a leader does, another person does that very thing.
Whatever he upholds as authority, an ordinary person follows that.

A manager cannot afford to be lackadaisical and loose in value structure, because others will follow him.

You should have love for whatever you do. If you are dissatisfied with yourself, you can never manage anybody. There are many reasons for one to be dissatisfied with oneself.

You may have a complex about yourself. This is due to what we call internalising. All the time we think about what others would think of us. We must understand we are as much worth as we value ourselves. We must discover our self-worth in order to command respect. It is necessary to discover self-esteem first.

We must care for the person whom we want to manage. Every person has to be won and we cannot win people by demand. We must genuinely care for that person. That calls for an understanding of the concept of duty and sanctity of work.

Our culture gives importance to the concept of duty. Duties are more important than rights. There is nothing superior or inferior in duty. We must see the sanctity of work in any job, we manage. We must also appreciate the dignity of any work.

We must make people feel they are understood. Money cannot buy a human being. If a person understands you, you discover self esteem or self respect. Atleast, you do not contribute to the self-disrespect of the other person. Everyone feels elevated in your presence. In fact there are only persons and not people. This recognition and managing persons is called personnel management. When we have relationship with people, management becomes natural.

Thus we see that, for managing others, personal management is very essential ! I must remain free from internalising the situations. We must try to find methods to see that we do not get angry. The Gita describes anger as an enemy sitting in your own heart. An angry man is vulnerable. We must recognise that anger is a bad management and we must gain power over anger. If you recognise that you have no power over anger, pray to God to grant you serenity, composure and the poise to deal with situations objectively. To manage your anger is personal management which comes before personnel management.

To sum up, your ability to manage others depends on your self-esteem, your self-worth. When you deal with other people, make sure that you do not cause any anxiety, any fear, any complex in the other person. Do not create a feeling in the other person that he or she is being judged by you. In your communication, see that the other person feels, she or he is understood. That is very important besides your being understandable. Every person has to be won and you cannot win peple by demand. Money cannot uy a human being. If a person is able to understand you, he or she gets a satisfaction. That person discovers a self-esteem, a self-respect. Everyone feels elebvated in your presence. This is an essential ingredient of pesonnel management.

Care is not merely economic consideration; it is something that comes from an individual. It is essential to have an understanding of the concept of duty and sanctity of work.

Lastly you manage your self by managing your anger, frustration etc, by being prayerful. With these, you will certainly be a good manager of yourself and the people you happen to mange.

Love,
Chithra.

Dear Chithra

Your posts are becoming more powerful day by day. A very good post which has the power to inspire the person who reads it.

"Your ability to manage others depends on your self-esteem, your self-worth" - How true is this line. I accept with it fully.

Thank you chithra.

Love
vidhi

Dear Vidhi,
Thankyou for leading the F b s !
If you are inspired by reading my post, I cannot ask for more, Vidhi !
Let us all start with finding satisfaction from whatever we do, like even mundane activities such as cooking or sweeping or anything. That is the first step to self-esteem !
Love,
Chithra.

Originally Posted by vidhi

Dear Chithra

Your posts are becoming more powerful day by day. A very good post which has the power to inspire the person who reads it.

"Your ability to manage others depends on your self-esteem, your self-worth" - How true is this line. I accept with it fully.

Thank you chithra.

Love
vidhi

Dear Chithra,

Yet another wonderful post relevant to all our lives :) simple thanks cannot be enough for this :)

love
pavithra

dear Chith,
Another piece of practical wisdom.I agree personal management begins at home. If you can manage the immediate family members without getting angry then life becomes tension free at thome. This I think is very essential to do good work in his profession.Yes I agree we should work hard with human relationships and genuine care for the person should be upmost if we want a reltionship which we want to cherish.Next I liked your taking up internalisation and doing things to please others. I agree if you get over this stigma and dont care much about other's judgment life is full of happiness.If we do what we want to do in the manner we want it done,that is great happiness. Sorry my mind is making me blabber.
Thank you for a post which gave me an opprortunity for self recrimination.
Regards,
Meenu

Wow Chitra Madam, Wonderful post. You are surely a God's Gift.

Thanks,
Birundha

Dear C

You have taken upon a very interesting and relevant subject this week. Probably because of its vast scope, I feel like the post is just a miniscule tip of a massive iceberg.

I loved the summary paragraph most - how very true. However, I don't understand - 'If a person is able to understand you, he or she gets a satisfaction. That person discovers a self-esteem, a self-respect' - I would think when somebody understands me or what I say, I will discover self esteem and satisfaction, do you think, it is the other way around too...

Looking forward to the Q&A session..

-Gayathri

Dear chithra,
Great Write up.Must and Much needed for an IT Professional like me. Most Managers in IT do not know how to manage his/her team.It finally results in higher attrition rate. Productivity is proportianally reduced due to this.
Managing House is all the more difficulty since its relatives that you manage and even small things blow big if any word goes wrong.I'm carefully using my words if my In laws are there at home since it instigates a mis understanding in a spur of a second.

Well penned and beautiful quote from Gita. I have been listening to Vellukudi Krishnanas Gita upaniyasam in Podhigai for a month(Mid - March , April).

Thank you for the write up.

Dear Pavithra,
Thankyou for the feedback.
We always associate personnel management with corporate life only ! Hence I chose this topic, since it applies to everybody !
Love,
Chithra.

Originally Posted by mkthpavi

Dear Chithra,

Yet another wonderful post relevant to all our lives :) simple thanks cannot be enough for this :)

love
pavithra

Dear Meenu,
I am very happy to read your F B.
You said it right - P M begins at home, right from efficiently dealing with the in-laws up to the maid-servant, driver etc.
It is my practical experience in life, which prompted me to choose this topic at all !
Internalisation, I always feel, is very essential & helps us improve a lot.
Thankyou, Meenu.
Love,
Chith.

Originally Posted by meenu

dear Chith,
Another piece of practical wisdom.I agree personal management begins at home. If you can manage the immediate family members without getting angry then life becomes tension free at thome. This I think is very essential to do good work in his profession.Yes I agree we should work hard with human relationships and genuine care for the person should be upmost if we want a reltionship which we want to cherish.Next I liked your taking up internalisation and doing things to please others. I agree if you get over this stigma and dont care much about other's judgment life is full of happiness.If we do what we want to do in the manner we want it done,that is great happiness. Sorry my mind is making me blabber.
Thank you for a post which gave me an opprortunity for self recrimination.
Regards,
Meenu