Discrimination based on appearance

Your friend should say: "Look, let me tell you something. I may be dark, but Iam a SEXY dark woman. I am dark like the night, like a piece of tantilizing chocolate, my skin is the black velvet covering the mysteries of my soul. I AM BEAUTIFUL AS I AM. As for my granny bracelets, please girl, you must not know the right word for it. It's called CLASSIC. Who cares about Deepika Padukone and Kareena Kapoor.... I AM A HEMA MALINI, A REKHA. I wear simple jewellery because I need no introduction. My sari is beige like the sweeping sands of arabia, my border red like the hot blood that beats through my veins. I AM A PROUD WOMAN, so please, next time you are looking to dole out fashion advice, give it to someone who needs it. Ciao." :thumbsup

 

I think your friends sil was really rude in that matter.She had no right to criticise others. I remember my cousin had come to a wedding party with a very simple salwar kameez. Her mother literally scolded at her. She is also dark in colour. But the way she talks and her down to earth nature makes everyone forget her appearance. Because she is such a sweet good natured girl. So i feel the real beauty is inner beauty not outer because if you look good but if your talks are boring , or if you are rude then that beauty has no value. Your friend must have definetely dressed in a decent manner. She should have told her sil straight that it is her preferance.

 

some people are so obsessed with looking good or i should say 'pleasing to look at'. it is very irritating when it is our own family/friends that makes such comments. They may mean well but it is sad they think superficial.
I have acne scar on my cheeks. after 2 years when i went home for a vacation and went to see my best friend at her home, she told and i quote 'what is this, you face is so ugly. is not good to look at your face, first do something and remove the scar'.
She doesnt have acne so she cannot understand my situation. I felt so bad but I can only pity her. If you feel disgusted to look at me and talk then talk to the hand LOL.

You cannot get a magic eraser and erase away the scars, you cannot pull a rajni kanth magic and turn white overnight, you cannot wear heavy jewels and dresses just because others want you to. you would do it if 'you' want it and are comfortable with.

Your friend needs to take such comments with a grain of salt and use a dont care attitude.
If your friend were a millionaire or a politican, then people would say 'oh look at her, she is so simple and down to earth, doesnt show off her wealth'

 

[JUSTIFY]

wooww !! :clap :clap ASG very good reply. I am going to show this to my friend who always worries she is not of fair complexion.

Fair complexion is different or looking presentable is different . We all should look presentable according to the situation . If a person discriminates on the basis of complexion or insults on basis of complexion or not change-able factors in my body my answer would be "GO TO HELL !! " . I literally hate people who discriminate or insult or classify people on basis of external god given appearance. If it based on being presentable I would take it as positive criticise and try to improve myself in being presentable by wearing dresses or grooming apt to the situation. [/JUSTIFY]

 

As long as she is comfortable with how she is dressed, she shouldn't care about what others think. It is a family function, so while there is nothing wrong in her husband's sister wanting her to dress more elaborately, she has no right to use such rude comparisons with her other SIL. If she thinks she is dressed appropriately, she shouldn't worry about others and yes, tell them to keep their abnormally long noses out of her business.