How elders r lier in my in-laws family?

Hi friends,

In four of my marriage i had seen bunch of liers in my sasural.I come from cultured family where bad words, lieing,cheating are big crime than murder.Because my dad feels that if you give bad words,lie to others n cheat at the end u end up murdering some one.So at basics u should be away from bad habits.But in my sasural my MIL is such a big lier.She cheat her own son[ my hubby] for money,totally partial towards us n her younger son.I wanted to ask my friends how come elders who is our hubby [whom we love dearly]mom can do it??

Does anyone faced such situations? Just share with us friends .Hope my situation is not so worse than others in this world.

Hi Sonu,

I first feel sorry for the situation you are facing. But one thing for sure, there are worse situations in many families among the members than yours. Don't get disheartened.

Coming to your point on elders lying, probably that you MIL's tactics to get things done with her son. Why do you bother, if your husband doesn't feel bad about it? If you are not affected, I would say you let it go. Also, I don't think a mother is going to be partial among her sons. I have seen cases where a mother is partial between her sons and daughters. They think daughters should be taken care more and that ends up in being partial.

Take it lightly and you be good to the elders, however bad they seem to be. You seem to have been brought up with good thoughts and habits by your parents, maintain it for their sake.

Love,
Roja

Hi Roja,

Its unusal but true in mine case. My husband are 3 bro n sis.My SIL[hubby's sis] than my husband n younger BIL.As my BIL is always pampered by my MIL as he is younger one so she use to hide his lots of things from us n SIL. She use to support him in all his deeds.My MIL never supported my hubby if compared to my BIL. Before marriage she even dint supported our love marriage n opposed till 2 yrs of marriage.Even when i was pregnant she dint stay in india n went to stay with her brother in US. She tolds lots of lies to our relatives behind us which we dint do at all.We met all of them n clear up everythng .Everyone knows inour family tht she is a big lier.But when i first heard those lies i was shocked that how come being an elder n mom she can lie so much??

Two years ago my BIL eloped n got married n kept it a secret.recently he disclosed it.All our relatives knew that he got married 2 yrs ago n its love n inter caste marriage .But my MIL organised a marriage ceremony for him n made him maary again n told all our relatives that its arrange marriage n girl use to stay abroad.Its a such a big lie and height of favourism that we cant handle it anymore.We both are in a great pain but still things goin on.

We suffered alot for 4 yrs she dint pitied her own son at all. Money wise she cheated us because of BIL.Now i dont understand where we stand after this.

Anyways it was nice to read ur reply Roja
Sonu