becoming hard to deal with this day in day out....

hi ashrita!!
dont take any tension!!!look this time is very crucial for u and baby.u have to heal and lactate ur baby aswell.it requires a lot of peace..
its simple dont u c ..that all mils know that in this period u r at ur lowest level of energy..so its their time to tell u that how greatful u should b for all things happened to u until this time.
but dont b deprresed evereyone has good times too.talk to ur friends on phone.or call them for tea..it will help u take off ur mind from ur mil.
go to some park ,or restaurant(alone ,with ur baby,if u can)free ur mind off her.and dont always comply to her.u ra mom now..u have greater responsibility towards ur dd,like ur mil has towards her dd(sil).praise ur dd unfront of her nth no of times...say u will do this for her ,her dady loves her so much.im sure ur husband will like this.this is how i tackle my mil.
wen she praises her daughter ,,u should bragggg abt ur dd. ...infront of ur DH...infront of ur mil...... make urself more energetic....ur dd is ur strenght...

Ashrita,
I can understand about your feelings, whether highly educated or uneducated to the core they have the same mentality, praising their daughters and praising themselves and we DIls are considered worthless.

Now if she is with you for only a few months, then please bear with her, I mean just bite your teeth, shut your ears and the let months pass of quickly. But in case she is there for more than that or permenantly with you then u should think of anything.

For me my DH being her only son and me her unfortunate DIL have to bear with till the end of our lives.

Friends really thanks for your replies and suggestions i find a bit of solace...yes shez going to be here for 6 months and im biting my teeth....end of 6 month am going to be toothless for sure...i really find no problem in praising her if she is good at anything..but no ive never seen anything praiseworthy in her till date...and cannot bring myself to praise her just for the heck of it....friends how do you respond to comments like these

' you know my brother wanted me to tie one knot for his sons marriage as he considers me very lucky/raasi, not only he all the people in fact' im dumbstruck at this...

my daily bragging dosage of MIL involves how much she is considered lucky, how her friends feel jealous of her, how much salary she draws, how much riches shez got and inspite of her riches how she considers all equal...how big hearted she is in gifting sarees to everyone this Diwali before she came here ( but dint hv the heart to bring one for DIL), how she has shopped for her daughter before she came here and kept everything for her so that when she comes to India for vacation she can use them all. how she has posted a saree to US for her daughters IL....im just drowing here... and going....how can anyone be like this and is there no way out for me ????

and also facing some cooking issues which ive posted in another thread...if at all anything can be done please let me know...