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please tell me how to handle this:
I am engaged for 1,5 years. My in-laws have always been very stiny.
For example when itīs my birthday theyīre even too stingy to make a phone call. My family always calls my fiance on his birthday.
And what really pisses me off is the fact, that my MIL canīt send me some Mehndi or even a Bindi on Karwa Chaut. Last year on Diwali my parents gave a really expensive Jacket and shoes to my fiance.
So even two weeks after Diwali my in-laws didnīt send me anything. So I was really disappointed. My fiance asked why I am kind of rude with him on the phone and am not talking so much, so I just told him that it would have made me happy, if they would also once think about me and at least gifted me something small at Diwali - since they have never given me any gift. He got mad at me, and asked me if I am calling his parents stingy?
Well, I had never used that word, but I wanted to say: YES, they are!!!!
So, I guess since I was complaining - he talked to his parents and told them what I think about their behaviour. Anyways three weeks after that phone call, I received a little package from his parents. They sent me a suit - OMG it was so cheap! It was cotton, not even a stone or anything on that and it was so loose. I guess they bought he cheapest suit they could find in that indian store close to their house - and that store also have really beautiful things! So I was so mad, when I saw that suit - it was worse then sending nothing. so during our engagement time thi sis the only gift I ever got from them. I am not writing this is here, because I want gifts- but I think since my parents are spending so much on him why canīt they also give me a little present, for example some chudiyan on karwa chaut or something...............
How shall I deal with that in the future when they treat me also like that once I am their Bahu? Please tell me what u think! thanks.