how do u feel if ur mil keeps praising abt ur sil infront of u

Originally Posted by Visu2k

Why should you bother? You are just not about how good you cook. You are more than that and you can only feel pity about women who hold cooking as if it defines womanhood itself.

Exactly!!! You are much more than about being a good cook.
If your SIL is a good cook - SO WHAT?? Just let it be.

If your MIL keeps bragging about how wonderful and talented your SIL is, just behave like it doesnt matter to you at all. May be you could tell her - "Oh that is nice to know that SIL is so talented - GOOD FOR HER !!!"

I have to hear this almost everyday infact 24/7.

I have two great SIL's both have done their masters and working with handsome salary. Both are not very good cook and very poor house keeping but can understand because their entire day is spent in office.

Since I am not working, I love cooking and house keeping, but my MIL is always showering her praises to her DD's "so what if they can't cook and maintain their homes, they can throw money and afford as many as servants they want and they are very capable of that"
Though it sounds awkward she wont mind repeating those words"throwing money on someone" to get the work done, are the people doing such job are so cheap? don't they deserve any respect?
Now I just ignore her when she repeat this kind of praising, there wont be any reaction in my face, I know each time she praises she looks in to my face for my expression but I know she will be totaly disappointed.

I have 1 SIL....so My MIL never accepts any facts in which i am the best....shopping or intelligence or caring or loving........

I want to share a funny incident....

My sil got engaged and her DH lost his job so he was still searching for a job here more than six months....fewdays back my MIL asked me about my job search(actually his son dont like me to do a job, so we are planning for a business) i just simply answered her " ur SIL is more talented and experienced than me and still he was on bench then how can i get a job....she was speechless.....I was very very happy...........i know it was wrong but still i enjoyed it...

Atleast i feel I am not alone. So now i try to channelise my energy to make them feel even more jealous all the time. I know I sound Arrogant and bitter. But i can have my share of self esteem and pride too.

funny how some MILs just have to talk about the other DIL or co sis.. my MIL used to talk about BIL's wife just o she did this and that.. and I would roll my eyes and just be like yea whatever.. nothing big and nothing new and now she doesn't talk about her at all. My mom is an excellent cook and DH prefers my cooking to his mom's and it drives her up the wall and to the ceiling!! just smile and ignore

My MIL goes a bit over the top when she praises my SIL so anybody can make out she is exaggerating. My cosis and I cant help but smirk at each other if we are together at the boasting sessions and my SIL sometimes has a resigned smile on her face when her mother talks....

Hahaha ... so all DIL's are facing this thing. I had a li'll bad time till the time SIL wasnt married. Mil always favored her even if she was wrong or if she talked rudely and in an insulting manner. MIL never placed any taunts upon me or gave me any verbal pains but favour to my SIL was enough and then over pampering her and stuff. SHe got married after a year of my marriage and I did each n every job of it...from start...arranging everything, her shopping and even last minute packings but never heard a word of praise..in fact whenevr3..being over pampered she brought up complaints from her IL side, I was pointed at that you hunted the guy for her...although she herself accepted the proposal... My MIL shared all SIL told her about her side but SIL never got close to me until one day when MIL was telling how mySIL'S SIL commented on her and I just reminded her very softly of 2-3 incidents when the same happened to me and she never took a call for me. After that...i have been feeling considerable change in them although I know within they wont accept they had been worng.

I feel all thi to some extent is natural and since long I have made it a point to keep praising mySL li'll bit in front of MIL so as she doesnt get a chance to exaggerate and also I keep purchasing li'll gifts for SIL time n again and this keeps both of them very happy. Its natural...evn when our Mom and MIL point us for the same thing, we too have much chances to feel bad if its MIL trying to teach us something. Isn't it?? Yes, it still does happen but I take it easily thinking that its ok she is far from MIL...So what if this keeps peace and harmony at my place

all DIL's have to face this!
'look at the way my daughter is taking care of her children' , 'how much she cares for even the small things',' how nicely she dresses', 'how much charity she gives away' etc etc and teh list goes on'..............

it doesnt bother me....
most of the time when shes praising her daughter i IGNORE her and contunie to do whatever i was doing...

sometimes she realise im not interested in knowing her daughters good qualities and keeps quiet :)

hi friends,
My mil will be praising her daughter like no women can adjust with her inlaws as her daughter does.She is very understanding women.She manages her house and expenses very well.She respects her inlaws very well which i don't do.My fil adds even praises more than my mil.I used to laugh in front of them but at back of them i just think like this until somebody praises she doesn't knows about her and let them beat their own drums.