cunning Inlaws

Hi ladies,
I'll enlighten with a small incident tht happened today

we hav invited my hubby's bua (my MIL's sis) and her son's families for lunch on a weekend.
my hubby wanted to make the lunch look perfect. out of tht my MIL's sis is a veggie.
so my hubby asked his mom (inspite of me, who knows cooking, only next to him.....) to make all the dishes. and my FIL started like wht a gr8 cook his wife is and how horribly my hubby is eating... all this whn im thr.
my hubby asked his dad to keep quiet and not talk unnecessay things. and i was behaving as though im absent
and then my MIL started...... "i can't make all this. il make only non-veg and ur bua (her sister) has to eat it. it is soooo irritating to cook for ppl of different diets. RIDICULOUS!"
now i told my hubby, "she is an old lady and may b she is following the doc's advice... so let me make the veg dishes(guys i don cook that bad ) and aunty can make the non veg. then she was like "no... u r not making anythng for her (remember.... she's her sister... no way connected to me)
my hubby said tht wud look really bad. u invite a person for lunch and make things tht they cannot eat. won't tht look bad?
my MIL said v wil give her curd and rice..... blv me she was serious.
i said no aunty il make... and she was like "U MAKE WHT U WANT... UR WISH"
now my hubby had enuf.... he told me, lowering his voice, don talk anymore
and he got up and went to our room
and i followed... and started folding the clothes.
he waited for almost 15 mins for me to say smthng or complain abt his mom.... but i nvr did and tht is the secret of gaining his trust.

he came behind me and said don worry our guests wil not go starved... v wil do all the cooking... v both can make it...
i din answer i jus hugged him....... he said it is ok.... v wil make a wonderful lunch tht day

HURRAH!!!!
thts how u win ur husband

Moral of the story:
SILENCE IS BLISS!!!!
blv me... i learnt it from my mom and aunties

im not being a gr8 example... jus wanted to tel u a very imp advice tht my mom and aunties gave me

so ladies... it is not too late
nvr ever complain abt ur ILs to ur hubby
he wil notice... if not now then surely l8r
and to notice it jus do one thing...... love him truly like anythng.... like no end to it
ALL THE BEST!!!

i donno whn i wil start asking others for better advice .... but as of now... jus try this.... life wil b more easy
it wil b difficult at first.... even i used to argue, shout
nothing helped

and slowly by practice i did it

Hi, Yiva

Its good that you posted this incident. Many of us will get to know how to handle things depending on situations. Hats off to your patience lady.

I somehow cannot hold my breath for so long and even my mom advices the same thing, i.e SILENCE. Perhaps I expected a lot from my hubby during our courtship. When I saw his reluctancy, negligencyand immatured way of handling things, I got bogged down.

As adviced by most of you, I am trying to keep silence and stop expecting anything from him anymore. I am spending more time on myself to keep myself happy and upgraded with higher qualifications.

Hope, you never have to ask any of us for any solution friend. May God bless you with tons of love and understanding from your DH.

hi dear,
i think the easiest thing to do is to behave the same way they do with u. as in u treat them nicely too in front of everyone else, including ur husband so that he knows that u care about his parents. first and foremost ur goal should be to win his trust and love. Dont complain to him about them, only say good things and tell him u care about them just like ur parents. if they taunt u about dowry tell them u cud have married ur son to those rich girls. and u`ll were the ones who didnt want dowry so why are u complaining now. just relax, be smart with people who are smart with u.good luck.

Originally Posted by N@!Sr!

Hi, Yiva

Its good that you posted this incident. Many of us will get to know how to handle things depending on situations. Hats off to your patience lady.

I somehow cannot hold my breath for so long and even my mom advices the same thing, i.e SILENCE. Perhaps I expected a lot from my hubby during our courtship. When I saw his reluctancy, negligencyand immatured way of handling things, I got bogged down.

As adviced by most of you, I am trying to keep silence and stop expecting anything from him anymore. I am spending more time on myself to keep myself happy and upgraded with higher qualifications.

Hope, you never have to ask any of us for any solution friend. May God bless you with tons of love and understanding from your DH.

Thts my girl!
this way thr wil b no fights and hazzles and u won't have any kind of mental worries
read a lot of books, be it romantic or mystery, anythng.... but keep urself occupied.

whn i read a lot..... now my hubby begs me to spend time with him..... but do not irritate him.
close ur book and b with him... make him feel tht he is important!

try new dishes..... try remembering if anythng ur husband says he loves
thr is an old saying.... U GET INTO UR HUSBAND'S HEART THRU HIS STOMACH" :)

ALL THE BEST dear...... u r gonna get him back blv me :)

Thanks Yiva for sharing this incident. You have immense patience! I'm really surprised at your mil's reluctance for cook for her own sis...

> U GET INTO UR HUSBAND'S HEART THRU HIS STOMACH
Very true!

N@!Sr, if u find it difficult to be patient, you can try being deaf!! Seriously, this is what i do when my hubby starts insulting!

Sandhya