Why me only?????

Hi ILites,
I think whoever is in need of suggestion, our friends in IL are always there. Atleast your words give relief to ppl like me or whoever in trouble.
I am not sure exactly Im in trouble. Anyhow, thanks in advance for your time.
I have been married to my cousin(aunt's son) 2 and half years now and have a 10 months old kid.
Till my marriage hasbeen finalised, I dont know tht im getting married to him. Eventhough there were fights in our families, so we thought tht with this marriage, there will be an end to those.
My marriage got finalised when I was in my final PG. Even everything hasbeen finalised like dowry,properties etc. But immediately I got job and almost earning how much the guy was earning. Even I got matches without dowry or single penny from my father.
Having more trust in this family, my father was keen on getting me married to my hubby. With lots of hopes, I entered into married life. The very 3rd day, my MIL asked about my salary and what I did with my earnings.
I was shocked with that, as even a single day my parents didn't ask me about those details. Day by day similar kind of financial topics aroused.
Once I went alogn with them to a small outing. I found some bangles very interesting adn tht time, my husband was away from me and talking to somebody else. Tht time, I didnt had my purse with me. So she bought those bangles for me. I felt happy afterall(20/-) When we went to some marriage, she was telling to my relatives tht im a kanjoos girl as if everything they are spending for me. I never took a penny from anybody in entire life apart from my dad. even I was working, I didn't even gave a rupee to my dad, as they didn't want it anymroe from me.

I felt very bad with tht action. After coming home, I gave her 200/- and told tht yesterday I forgot my purse. even I told the same to my DH, but he didn't show any difference.
Somany incidents took place whenever they come to see us.
She always complains on me to my parents. when I was carrying 5th month, she upsets me very badly with her abusing for a small issue. It took almsot one month to comeback to my normal life.
she complains that I am earning for my sake and not for anybody.
I am doing lots of shopping ( infact after marriage, I hardly went outside for shopping)
I have headweight that I am earning much.
I dont take care of his son properly
Infact we both go one and comeback at the same time together.
Even after this kind of issues also, I kep quite as I have to conc on my kid's health.

Always she wants my money and insisted me going to ofc til due date.
Initially she told my mom (my mom and inlaw)tht they both will share kid's time. After delivery she ddin't even tell anythign about it.
when I was hospitalized for delivery, she came on 2nd day and wished tht atlest I should come to know about son's value. I was shocked. what the hell her son is doing to me??nothing.....everythign I have to take care at home. He just sits infront of after returning home...but for me its not the case, I have to cook and clean. I even never complained on this
SHe always expects more from me.
Even days passed like tht and I resumed my work after 4 montsh of matenrity leave. With my availability and my mom's availability, my mom is completely dedicated to my kid from his day 1. so we have decided to send my son to my mom's place so tht my dad will not have any problem as still he has 3 years of govt place. we planned in such a way tht one month with me and one mnth there.
My inlaws are such a ppl, they never come and see my son eventhough both of their houses hardly 3 kms. I go on every weekend to my mom's place and look for my Kid's whereabouts and comeback on monday to ofc.
still whenever she comes to my place, she always complains and starts treating me like a roadside begger. I stopped talking to her after my delivery. Because, anhow im not getting any cooperation from her...so what the reason in talking to her? even she complains always......I can't satisfy her. I though tht instead of satisfying her, if I put those efforts at work, I can get best perks.
I dont know whats they have problem with me?
I look beautiful, got good dowry to them,working with a very handsome salary(6 fig salary montly)
From day 1, iam not at all happy with htsi married life.
but goodthing here is, My husband likes me alot. but he never stops his mom's loose talk. My mamaji is just like a doll infront of a showroom. He can't control her.
Please advice me how to handle such kind of monther inlaw

IGNORE AND LIVE YOUR LIFE !! Your hubby is verry good to you, right ? Then do not involve him to help you. When your MIL says something take it as the most stupidest thing you have ever heard , laugh in your mind and leave the place.. It may sound hard.. but believe me it is definitely not impossible.. Try it.. It will work.. Let her go on and on.. you should listen to it in a way that you are just waiting for her to finish so that you can get to do more constructive work. if your hubby doesnt say anything then I am sure he will not stop you if you show out your disinterest in her talks ! The more you show you are upset she gets a kick out of it and cribs more.. so just cut her talks when you are irritated. If your hubby asks why you did that .. tell him you were losing your patience and was getting hurt too.. you didnt want to react and so cut the conversation. I am sure he will stand by you as far as you dont say anything back .. When she comments on how you take care of your son.. just say.. i can handle it and move away from there.. The more you stay away from the lady the better .. You carry on with your life .. By now you must know what she may comment on and how she would.. so keep a cool reply ready for it.. just snap her and move away from the scene.. Talk more to you FIL when she is around.. and look irritated and bored when she starts to talk.. Atleast her cribbing would stop eventually.. This is called silent retaliation !! Take care dear !!

Thanks preethi.

dear priya

ur answer lies in your own words when u say that u would rather work for ur job,, and please give the attention to ur baby than to the ones who care only for money.
and nobody can stop such people not even their hubbys. if had that been the case u would have seen the result earlieer.he must be already
best of luck for the future