Good Sign or Bad Sign...

Hello ladies..

ok..i will come straight to the point.. as i said earlier ours is love marriage(inter-religion). my MIL is stronger personality and wants all the power in her hand.. she doesn't want a bit to go out of our house without her notice.. and till today she tells my SIL what to wear and what not..and my SIL also asks my MIL each and everything.. and my MIL expects me to be like my SIL.. but if the thing is acceptable i will do if not i will smoothly reject.. and from the strating my DH expects me to please my MIL that means should not tell a word against her, if she comments me also i should take it lite.. he repeatedly says that if u are obedient my mom will treat u same as her daughter,if something goes wrong the scenarioes will be different.she will not even care u, so be smooth and obedient to my mom and all...

before my marriage i used to keep my jewellery in my mom's locker . after our marriage my hubby told me to handover my jewellery to MIL before i leave to US. but at the starting of our married life i don't have good opinion about my MIL .... u ladies know y is that so...i am not her choice of DIL and she commented me which i din't like and i was a bit backed from my MIL..so i asked my hubby that i will leave some of my jewellery(some i am taking with me to US) in my mom's locker.. my hubby doesn't like this idea as he knows his mother(my MIL) won't like it and doesn't allow this to happen(he told me this repeatedly),but due to my force he agreed..so when i went to my mom's place i gave them to my mom and just before we get to start back to my in-laws place my hubby called his mom and told this fact..she said something(????????????..) and my hubby totally changed and got aggressive and start saying that i need to leave the jewellery with his mom .. so i told the fact to my mom and brought back the jewelllery..and i left it with my MIL.. there started my frustration.. y did she do like that./..y can't she leave my things to me... i used to argue this issue with my hubby soo many times .. i used to say y should i force myself to do the things i don't like when my MIL says .. if i don't like somethings i won't do them.. if she comment me(u people know how MILs comment DILs) i will also give some appropriate answers smoothly (if i don't say anything the commenting is increasing and my frustration levels are increasing) ..but my hubby used to say i should not at all talk back with my MIL b'coz if she takes it seriously she will not be same as before that means she will not treat me same as her daughter and there will be cold wars in house which will take away all people's peace.. i din't have much choice at that time i start doing the same.. but i used to feel very frustrated when i do the things i don't like .. i also stopped arguing with my DH..i used to do what ever he say to please his mom..

recently in some issue i asked my DH not to do one thing... i dunno y he listened to my words and didn't do that.. but after 2 days he complained that he was very much interested to do that thing and as i said not to do that , he hasn't done that, but due to that he felt frustrated...so he was asking me "do u also feel the same frustration when i force u to do the things u don't like? "
i said "yes"..
he apologized me and said he will not force me in anything from now.. and he also stated that he will not involve in the issues between me and my MIL(before he used to make me do the things asked by my MIL even if i don't like).. he said that i should resolve and take care of my things with my MIL.. but the condition is that i should not make the things complex and the relations should not tare apart... i really felt i am freed after a long time and my respect for my hubby has increased very much...

but some where in my heart i have a very small doubt.. is this a good sign that my DH changed a lot or is that the condition he is in now made him to talk like that... will this lead to any bad results..

plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz ladies clear my doubt..
is this change in my hubby a good sign or bad sign for my relation with him..
awaiting your ideas.....

Creeper ,

What do you want ?? You want him to change or remain how he was ? You would obviously want him to give you your space isnt ? The when it happened why do you scare yourself again ?? When you could accept their interferences why this doubt now ?? This change in his mind is a boon in disguise for you !
GO ahead amend ways.. Politely and firmly say NO to anything against your wish. When in future your hubby gets back to his old form naggin about things.. just remind him gently of what he said and smile at him saying everything is handled ! Tell him just as he understood her sometime his mother will understand too that you are not a bad DIL after all !! Just hold his hand and give a smiling assurance ! He will undrstand .. Dont confuse your mind further with unnecessary doubts and remember if your spouse stands by you , there is no one you cant face in his family !! take care..

hi preethi,

actually from his way of arguing i thought he will never change his way.. but all of a sudden he emerges with this new funda, i was a bit puzzled... so i was curious to know whether is this normal in guys or not..
anyway..thanks for your suggestions..
bye..