What you do?

Hi Ladies,

This is not completely related to mu inlaws....but it is some how connected to them...so i am posting down here.....

gals...how do you interact with people with different mentalities....I know that once you married you have to accept every one behavior and have to dun your family....i don't have any big issues right now...but some times it irritates me a lot...

I ma 5 months pregnant and happily married for 3 years...my husband love me a lot(more than i do)....and takes care of me very well....My inlaws are not bad but they are acceptable......coming to the behaviour aspects...my FIL is male dominating man....and wants to control evry thing and take charge of single thing in home..like buying small stuff..we have to take permission with him.....I do respect elders and will accept their contribution to any decision we do....but this guy is male egoistic and wants to control over things....and suggests(or neglects) me in evry thing....I am a working professional well settled in a govt position. They came here and staying with us for past 3 months and he explains me every thing how the US is...it sounds funny ....as i am her from past 3 years....and he says to me what to buy and what not....ok...lets assume that he is taking more care of us....the thing bothers me is that he is not at all successful in his life...means he just sits at home and does nothing...he just gives suggestions to evry one....my husband is the one who is sending money to them from past 10 years....and took all the responsibility......we are still paying debts ....which he lost from his business.....I dont under stands his mentality....why he wants to dominate us?.....and wants to show us that he is intelligent....because as we know him that he is not smart enough to handle any thing...but behaves like he is a king....and if any relatives pin points that then he just burst in to fire and he never tales to them....and no one talks to him because of his mentality.....

gals pls let me know how to deal with this guy..and wants him know that he not that intelligent and there is no need to show his ultra smart ness from now...and i want this person to leave his gamand and wants him to see as down to earth guy.....

Hey all,

I have a similar situation with my MIL, she wants to prove at every step that she is a "perfectionist". Its damn irritating. even when I set a table mat she re does it not cos mine was improper just cos she wanted to show she's the one who does things well...She rarely enters the kitchen but when she does she tried to potray she's really been slogging everyday.

How to deal wit this?