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Mine is a love marriage. I am from West Bengal and my hubby is from Andhra Pradesh. Initially no one from my husband's side agreed for our marriage but somehow my husband came for the marriage and his parents accompanied him for the same.
Thats the begining of my DEVASTATING life!!!!
We were not allowed to stay together as per my MIL's order and my husband had no say on that. Then my hubby moved to Middle East where he had been working for 1 year already. I had been begging him to take me with him, but I received only refusal.The only statement my in laws had that they havent officially accepted our marriage though they all attended the wedding and ate to their heart's content in the event .
During those 4-5 days of my marriage, I noticed that my MIL used to send my hubby to a different room and take me to another one. Then she used to start all sorts of her nonsense questions as to how much money her son gives me, if my sister is studying with her son's money,if my father would give his flat to me or my sister etc.... which used to be highly annoying to me. I told all these to my hubby and surprisingly he did not trust me. After my hubby came to Middle East, she started all these nonsense over the phone(I was in Bangalore n my In laws in Vizag) and none of the time my husband would trust me.
Somehow through immense fights, I convinced my hubby to get my visa for Middle East and had gave up my flourishing career of 5 +years in Bangalore.
I stopped mentioning these things to my husband, however after a year of staying together, my sis in laws wedding ceremony came into picture.
My husband decided to attent his sis's wedding without me as I was not approved of any leave. I begged and requested him not to leave me alone in this foreign world but nothing seems to have worked for him. My hubby's only answer was "Leave the job and come with me."
Please advice how should I deal with this kind of a man? I often get surprised when I think how I loved him so much when he has no consideration for me infront of his family. His family comes first and second hand priority is me.