what dh address ur parents as?

hi friends..
this is just out of curiosity,iam asking...what does ur dh address ur parents as.i am married for the past 3.5 yrs and blesssed with a 14 month son.we never had chance to stay longer in india after marriage.just went once for 1month.my mom came to US for my delivery and stayed with us for 6 months,that was the time when my dh and mom have interacted well for teh first time.but would u believe,my dh has not addressed my parents with any name yet.wenever he talk to my mom or dad on phone he would just start with...salam,me..(his name),how r u ..and all normal talk.everythinz fine,he respects them,care for them,but i never can undstd why dont he address them ,if not mom,dad,atleast uncle or aunt.i address his mom as MOM,so why dont he cal my parents by any name.my mom did ask about it and i delivered him the same.he doesnt have any proper reply.silly excuse that i dint stayed with them yet,how wil i be so close to address them?i too dint stay with his mom but stil i address her as MOM.otherwise he would say, "whats the big deal,if i dont address,it doenst mean that i dont respect them.its just that i dont feel like" .i never can unstd his reply.anyone has any idea,i know its not a big deal,but i would love my dh call my mom,dad as MOM,DAD.i dont know wen wil he.or he wont.or may b i asked him quite a few times,thast why he is feeling awkward to do it.but its not a matter to teach ,right?its just casual.

hi sknaaz,

I think you should just suggest to your DH casually that why doesn't he call your parents as "mom/dad" or "mummy/daddy" or "auntie/uncle" (preferably the first)... tell him many guys do that no probs about that. Then leave it to him to get comfortable with it and decide.
Maybe tell him try it once or twice to get the feel of it.

My DH calls my father "dada" (it is usually used as a respectable word in our community for an elder person). He calls my mother as "mummy". I call his folks as mummy and daddy. (I call my own dad as "papa").

Though my DH feels hesitant whenever I give him the phone to talk to them, but that's more because the conversation will usually be short and formal types, hence he hesitates. Otherwise no issues..

take care,
hope your dh can get to calling them something you like ..!
best,
hasita

hi hasita,
i did asked lot of times since marriage about this,but everytime either he gves some silly reason or gets angry.although he talks so much to them on phone about all topics like his job,life here in US, about his future plans.actually my parents are very friendly which helps him to talk to them for hours.just this addressing part gets me to thinking that WHY CANT HE?if he cant cal them MOM,DAD atleast he can call UNCLE,AUNTY..right?but i guess,i asked him about this thats why he doesnt want to do it.hahaha..male ego u c.anyways guess i should b happy that he respects them.u know i tried lot of time not to cal his mom as MOM on phone,but u know i cudnt do it,i tried but failed,how can a person talk to somebody without addressing,for some who thinks i sound silly please try this when u talk to somebody and tel me is it possible?

Originally Posted by sknaaz

hi friends..
teach ,right?its just casual.

My husband also doesnt address my parents as aunty/uncle when talking to me or to his family. Its always my name and her parents.But when he meets my parents its aunty and uncle. Of course,I also feel comfortable doing the same. When we are not in b/n my in laws I prefer your mom and your dad.
It should'nt matter to us if our husband's give respect in person.

Hi Sknaaz,

Just be happy that your husband is being genuine. So long as he respects them and has a decent conversation with them it is more than enough. Not all husbands are like that.

Thanks,
Kavya.

i have the same issues.. i never called his parents amma/appa until marriage and everytime i call it, it comes across as so fake!! i know.. whatever but that's what they want and he makes it out to be ma or da.. but mostly blurts out uncle/aunty.. its very uncomfortable to call someone else mummy and daddy.. its like i have ownership on it.. its only meant for two people in my eyes.. so i made it out to be amma appa.. and it sounds ridiculous because i feel ridiculous