Irritating Long Distance Relatives - Dooor ke rishte dar

This is story of my neighbour my friend, I thought of sharing with you. Might be some of you be facing with this kind of people.
My friend and her husband are calm and cool person, whoever visit’s there place they greet them nicely. But now she was yesterday complaining that again after a month her long distance relatives are visiting to their place. Till now they have visited every year and my friend nor her husband has any close relation with the guest. They are door ke rishtey dar. Whenever they visit my friend’s husband has to take them for a shopping, outing, every time they want to visit a new place whatever distance be it. All the money is spent by friends husband only even on return tickets to their home also. Even they go for a stay picnic also for 3-4 days.
Now my friend has got irritated as both they are working and it gets difficult for them to take a leave. Also these relatives stay at my friends place atleast 20-25 days. This time she is too worried.
Can you anyone pour your ideas what you will do to this kind of guests and have you dealt with any such guests.

 

Thanks SGBV, Charu n Malstorm for your suggestions.


First of all my friend cant say now NO as already the relatives have taken the tickets and they are visiting as per their scheduled date next month.


Second my friend cant visit the relatives place as they stay at village n my friend at city. So even though if my friend and her husband plan to visit village they cant demand for anything as in village hardly you get anything. Visiting village at guest place means no shopping and no outing. This option doesnot works.@swt.charu


Also my friends BIL and SIL stays in same city but the relatives will never visit at BIL and SIL place. They will just call them at my friends place for a short get together that's it.


Guests know BIL and SIL are not going to fulfill their wish.


The guests are in good relation with my friends MIL. So saying NO for anything will put them in a wrong position and it may be complained to MIL. So my friend get worried.


She says she is okay with the guest visit but for shopping, outing etc. she is not okay. So now how to understand the guests. Please help.

 

Can you tell me like what type of actions they can take. But they cant insult the relatives as they are elder persons.
So please tell how to avoid the relatives.

 

Yes, Rith. Their BIL and SIL gave same excuses for the first time when relatives visited city at my friends place. So they never visited at their place.

But my friend and her husband are cool and calm person and hence relatives are taking their advantage by visiting every time.

There are many near by us who not dont good relations with parents and this people are like they are treating nicely with the dooor ke rishtedar also.

As time definetly she has decided to say NO for any picnic. But what about the shopping which can happen in sunday. How to avoid that.