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Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by Anamika99, Oct 9, 2015.

  1. Anamika99

    Anamika99 Gold IL'ite

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    Hi All,

    We all are here as we have some kind of issues with PILs. Some are strong enough to deal with some are not...or it is like ...

    not glass empty or half full. But holding half full too long to feel the stress and finally break down happens.

    Some of you already know I am going through similar period.
    I have been able to handle my fear from PILs just fine, though i felt it - i managed it. Not this year,

    I am taking antidepressent not just because I am heart broken and depressed but I have this high anxity and fear during certain period of time in the day....because we used to have conflicts during those time and I was scolded repeadtely for years. I was told my non professional it is PTSD but i thought it is always caused by traumatic big events, but i just found this


    'It seems that Complex PTSD can potentially arise from any prolonged period of negative stress in which certain factors are present, which may include any of captivity, lack of means of escape, entrapment, repeated violation of boundaries, betrayal, rejection, bewilderment, confusion, and - crucially - lack of control, loss of control and disempowerment. It is the overwhelming nature of the events and the inability (helplessness, lack of knowledge, lack of support etc) of the person trying to deal with those events that leads to the development of Complex PTSD. Situations which might give rise to Complex PTSD include bullying, harassment, abuse, domestic violence, stalking, long-term caring for a disabled relative, unresolved grief, exam stress over a period of years, mounting debt, contact experience, etc. Those working in regular traumatic situations, eg the emergency services, are also prone to developing Complex PTSD."
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    http://www.bullyonline.org/stress/ptsd.htm)


    SO there is something called complexed PTSD.SYmpotms and causes are similar to mine. So while i know why my medicine is not completely helping me though it has stopped my crying spells.

    It is about time to involve some professional, i donot want to rush it so I am going to give some time to my medicine. BUt I wanted to share it , in case somebody is in the same boat as I am
     
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    simpleton Silver IL'ite

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    Hi Anamika,

    Totally understand your plight and thanks for the info. Better go for some exotic trips like mexico,cruise or something. Wear nice dresses,go for girls outing,change ur hair style,get active in FB,go for movies,sing,dance and do everything which will make you forget the past.
    My inlaws were there last yr for 6 months and after they left i did everything that made me feel better. Swimming, dance and sports activities will help people in getting the bad out of their head. Listen to music as it heals the wound in your heart...
    More important see Secret movie if you have Netflix at home or buy CD and see it.
    All that you want in life will happen.. believe Secret helps if nothing else helps..
     
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    Anamika99 Gold IL'ite

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    I did almost all of it...

    changed my hairstyle, bought new dresses and went to europe for almost 3 weeks. I lost 15 lbs of weight and was targetting few more lbs this yr. Not realzing they will drop the bomb by planning to even come for 4 months,.

    my almost all symptoms go away as soon as they leavve ...literally

    And i have only rage left which surfaces only it is that weekly time to talk to them.

    I can move one easily....it is just having them every year does not let me since I almost go through the same. This year has been little different...knock on wood...but it is not easy to overcome what one expirenced for yrs and suddenly trust the new good changed situation
     
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    Hmm I get it. Talk for 10 mins once in a week and then hand over the phone to ur hubby/son. That's what I did..(now they are here.) Don't show the fear while talking and say hmm for everything, don't even strike a conversation. Just try avoiding them and try creating a distance.They will not come frequently.. Write in a diary, what and all you want in life and that will happen. Start attracting it and read it everyday.. Universe will change itself and only good things will happen as per your wish... Watch 'Secret' movie today itself.
     
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    Hi Anamika,

    I have faced a lot of issues with my in-laws and h in past and still facing it. Though number of issues are reducing every year. But due to their past actions I have really bad image of them in my mind. It's almost every day somewhere in my mind I think about their bad deeds and bad words spoken. I curse them or think I have been trapped here. These things goes for hours and hours somewhere in my mind no matter what I am doing. I am not at all aware about PTSD. Just wanted to know are these symptoms of PTSD?
     
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    yes, i agree about phone. I started limiting time but not about being terse in talking. WIll do so.

    WHat movie is that? I googled and turned up more than one option
     
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    I am not a doctor, i cannot tell yes or no.
    I do feel what u feel too.
    I went to my PCP and explained how i feel. I wished she probed more than just giving me medicine. I donot have time to goto specialist she suggested,
    so I just keep researching on web and i have read many articles. I found this one which could make sense because it says small negative stress for prolonged time can develop PTSD too, just called complex PTSD.

    Yes i do curse them, feel trapped and everything u said and much more
     
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    vaidehi71 IL Hall of Fame

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    To diagnose PTSD and other psychiatric issues is complex even among GP. It is the psychiatrist who will be able to come to diagnosis. There are too much overlap of symptoms among them to tell whether or not one is having such a diagnosis. Searching the web is only going to confuse the lay personal.

    Seek medical professional help for your problem
     
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    I had a mother you suffered from the symptoms you mentioned above. It was definitely misdiagnosed of her. she took antidepressants for long time with serious side effects. I hope your doctor does not push meds on you every time you complain that the medicines/therapy are not helping. It is a vicious circle. I would suggest you look into alternative therapy. The problem is the environmental variables that are causing you this issue are not going away any time soon, so the symptoms are going to manifest themselves from time to time. The other option is to change your temperament and thinking, easier said than done. I am skeptical about anti depressant, they can become habit forming.
     

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