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Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by resmij, Mar 4, 2015.

  1. resmij

    resmij Silver IL'ite

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    hi,

    my son has chest congestion at the moment. He coughs very badly, and yesterday night - coughed and vomited.

    he ate dosa, and chutney for his dinner.

    MIL comes and asks me- did you put ghee and take dosa?

    I managed to answer - " I did not ", politely, and she did not come after me then.

    (I don't understand, am I so brainless- to avoid ghee, I know my child is not well!!.

    I am glad that she shows consideration for my child.

    as I have written before also here, your child is theirs, but never you.)

    how to deal with such a situation?

    pls advise ladies.

    regards,
    resmij
     
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  2. Radhai

    Radhai Platinum IL'ite

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    Next time when you make dosa for the unwell child smile and tell her voluntarily "I did not add ghee".
     
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  3. wings2010

    wings2010 Senior IL'ite

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    one small doubt ..."your child is theirs, but never you"...
    if your child is theirs why they cant make dosa?.. common don't get frustrated for these kind of issues..we are bold na, we should manage everything. even our children will be noticing us and one day they will think how wonderfully mamma managed everything.
    Don't mind comments if you know they are to irritate you..go ahead...
    and one more truth to you..
    your child is LIKE theirs but not really..the truth is ..its your kid. what ever they do..how much ever they care..its your kid. he will come to you only because children know who is real and who are LIKE real.
     
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  4. yellowmango

    yellowmango IL Hall of Fame

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    Op...that is what most mils do....
    That is what dils are for.....to put the blame on.

    Everytime my daughters would even sneeze...she would come running and ask me"What did you do?"
    Every time they coughed ...it was my fault....
    This when we barely spend three months together and my daughters have never fallen really sick(touchwood!)in front of her....somethings don't change.
    Someday you will find the voice to ask if her kids never fell sick...some day you will find the stare that tells her that you have had enough!
     
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  5. resmij

    resmij Silver IL'ite

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    Dear ladies here,

    Thank you for writing to me.

    @radhai- as you said , I wish doing it- but mu husband will come to warfront :))), and ask me what are u telling to my mom.

    @wings2010, you are correct, I will wait , till the time changes. I hope child realizes the kind of ill-treatment, and insult happening to me.

    @yellowmango, I wish for my time to come. and yes, if anything goes wrong- it is all a dil's fault.

    the most annoying thing is - silence from husband- when such things happens.

    regards,
    resmij
     
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    peartree Platinum IL'ite

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    This is a very harmless question! Why do you have to attach malice to every question that comes from someone just because she is a MIL?

    I was warming up some breastmilk in a bottle for my 2 month old last night and for some reason, she screamed when I put the bottle in her mouth. My mom asked me if I had checked for it being too hot before I put it in her mouth. It was a harmless, conversational question.... she wasn't accusing me of trying to harm my child or anything! It is just her concern on trying to figure out why your child vomited. Do not attach anymore "meaning" to it than necessary and stress!
     
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  7. Radhai

    Radhai Platinum IL'ite

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    why? what is wrong with the smiling statement "I did not add ghee"
     
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    Rihana Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    You are asking why husband views that as saving ghee from dosa and adding it to the fire? :)
     
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    VanithaSudhir Platinum IL'ite

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    pun intended.. classic..!
     
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    VanithaSudhir Platinum IL'ite

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    Husbands have "selective" hearing and seeing abilities in front of their parents.. yumsmiley
     
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