Joint family Problem

Hugs to you dear for the rough life you had to go throughconsole1

You posed as a perfect doormat to your DH & family to be used as they wished with your submission.Now they find it very convenient to treat you that way and not ready to let you off (BIL shouting at you should have alerted you).To be shouted by your siblings in law is a complete no.Unless you clearly now draw a line in being treated with respect you need to live this doormat life forever.You seemed to have lost your whole identity through marriage.Try to rebuild yourself back to where you could respect yourself(so that your DH too would do so).

Your DH is in US .You are with your DH or inlaws or with your parents now? Start looking for a job with or without your DH support.Forget about doing house work and concentrate on your career ,even if you succeed in this marriage you may need to stand in your own feet to gain back some respect.Change your life to change your identity.

Parents have diff expectation from thier kids according to thier basic qualities.They would never expect your BIL to get responsible as his basic nature is that.So dont expect them to let off thier hold on your DH.But to expect you not to have a child for thier good is carrying responsibilities to a level of unpleasantness.Ask your DH to learn from his brother on how to treat wife well.

Prayers to you dear

 

Tested.....…

 

Pear.. How did you manage to give such a long answer to such a short post ( with a repeated word????) surrendersmiley

 

@ heron...
i'm searching the question..

 

Thats when the user type a long message and then have "buyers remorse" and delete the whole content.

The one who gave the hug reading the message stand alone.

 

console1 Worry not JAM that is not the end of story, someone/mod will report/restore the deleted post as a justice to fellow pears.. then OP emerges with new id. :mrgreen: all is well, The End.

 

@pear Why didn't you quote the post when you gave the reply ?:roll:

 

May be as a first poster i should have done that.Technical/tactical problem:idontgetit:......... Its looks damn funny to read my reply to the problem of "TESTING".

On a serious note:
The poster had posted another thread unwisely with her cell number,so i understood her dilemma.Not fair to reveal the content......i request the poster to post the problem with a new changed ID(to remain anonymous).