FIL is giving trouble

Ask the girl to immediately leave for her parents house and stay there till her husband takes her with him.

It is her choice if she wants to inform her MIl and parents about the real issue but it is not acceptable to stay with pils anymore .

 

Tell her to leave for her parents place.I would also suggest she inform her mil at least as she will be expected to live in the same house sometimes.There is no point hiding this.She should tell her husband and move to parents house immediately.If it takes time and he misbehaves during this time...tell her to use the threat of police .That will sort out the creep.

If required...she should also inform her mother.

 

I won't be surprised if this is not his first misbehavior. People just do not start of by misbehaving like this with their son's wife.The fact that his children accepted it without a doubt means he is not new to this.

 

God what a creep man. Tell your friend to be bold. She does not have to be scared or anything but she has to protect herself. Next time he touches her tell her to look into his eyes and say no don't you do that, I won't be an easy target for you, I know what's in your mind so just stop it. I am sure he will know his place then and there. Tell her to leave for her parents.

I have a frd frd her fil used to do cheap talk a lot. When she was newly married just after a few days her father in law was telling her do not take contraceptive pills they may cause trouble in conception, the best contraceptive is condom. when she was alone fil told her hum u guys sleep very late. I saw the light was on even after mid night. After a few days her husband left for another country and she was at her in laws for a few months, fil told her oh you must missing your husband, are you able to sleep well at night because when he was here both of you used to sleep very late. She never said anything just left the place. She was very timid back then. His pils cam to help her when she was pregnant. When she was 8 months pregnant once he told infront of mil can you bend and rub some cream on my knees because I have joint pains. She was frustrated. I used to tell her that she has to speak up. her baby was born with normal delivery and she had sitches, once she was about sit fil told her oh please gently you have stitches down there let me put a soft cushion under you. After putting the cushion fil said are your stitches still sore or they have healed. When she used to breastfeed fil used to tell her is your son latching well, I hope he doesn't bite. She always found it too offensive once she told her husband he was a spine less jerk he said so what my dad cares for you. Once he said something like I hope your breast doesn't feel too heavy because you seem to have good milk supply and that was it my friend said enough she gave him a good dose. After that he never opens his mouth infornt of my frd.

 

This is a serious issue.

She should say calmy "Please remove your hand", "How can you talk so indecently?" etc.

She should leave for her parents' place as soon as she can. Her husband should be the one to communicate her decision to leave to MIL, preferably only just in time for her to leave. Once she is out of there, her husband can tell MIL about this. No need to inform any thing to FIL.

It is her husband who should do every thing to ensure her safety. He should convey to MIL that they will not visit/will not allow FIL to visit them, because of his indecent behavior.

I feel there is no point expecting this shameless man to repent his behavior. Best that she and her husband stop interacting with him.

 

He deserves a tight slap or a slipper or broom treatment and needs to be shamed in front of his wife.

There is no need to explain his behavior - this treatment will speak volumes for the rest of his life.

 

BuviVishal,

Ask your friend to be bold.
Have your friend to make sure to have a proof of his behaviour somehow(a recording or whatever).
Have her husband talk to his dad about this and have the man do an apology and promise to behave to her.
Move out of the place immediately after.
This behaviour is probably going on and she is the new victim. The man probably needs some help.

 

She need to tell this to her husband and move to her parents place.