weired situation, I want to run away!!!

resmij · Dec 20, 2014

Dear ladies,

I don't have a good relation with my MIL.

Yesterday she is questioning me about something that I have not done -

My child calls his Grandma- Mummi, I have no issues with what he calls her- daddy , mummy or whatever.( all her grandchildren call her Mummi)

She says- he told her - " u are not my mummi", for the 3-4 days.

and he told her it seems- Amma ( that's me unfortunately) told me.

Now Mil questions me as if I am a thief/ prostitute/ or whatever.

What to do in such a situation? I don't mind admitting if I have done something.

Un necessary blames I don't take.

if I don't share this with someone, I would even die.

I already suffered a lot bcoz of this lady.

I was into depression, and took medications, and counseling too for 2 years ( which just got over)

what she wants ?

Please give me your opinion

regards

resmij

Twinkel · Dec 20, 2014

What she thinks and concludes is her problem... you give a deaf ear and be usual you. Or if you really want to react, just say "I haven't told him so, even if I did, you are not his mom, you are granny!" and turn away without waiting for her reaction. Be at peace.

yellowmango · Dec 20, 2014

I don't get these grandmothers who want to be called mummy by their grandchildren. It just is disgusting.
Why do you want your child's child to call you mother?
You are a grandmother and what is wrong in being called one.
Why are you ashamed of being called a grandmother ?
Why do you want to be called your son's child's mother?
What the hell are they trying to prove by being called mummy?
Some kind of twisted incestuous titles they want for themselves.....If my mil tried this mummy business,I would have corrected her the very first time. Thank God she is not like this and knows the meaning of relationships.

OP....Ask her if he is telling a lie.May be you should tell her that her grand child is reminding her that she is NOT the Mother but a Grandmother to him. Ask her why she has a problem being called a grandmother. Is she ashamed of being one?

armummy · Dec 20, 2014

Tell her you did not ask him to that and leave it at that.

how old is your son , try find out from him who asked him to do that. May be some ofhis friends commented ,hence he is saying it. In any case he should not lie taking your name. That is more important than your MIl questioning you

MalStrom · Dec 20, 2014

Firstly, Ignore her.
Speak to your son privately to see if you can get his side. If your son is small then it could be just him saying something.
If your MIL continues to harp on this, ask her who the adult is.

resmij · Dec 21, 2014

Thank you all for your replies and support.

regards, resmij

kinjal · Dec 21, 2014

I don't know what's wrong with these woman's..my mil was not happy when my daughter started calling her grandmom....she already has 3 grand kids and all call her mom...

she tried telling her to call her mom...my daughter continue to call her grandmom

Weasly · Dec 22, 2014

Just listen from an ear and take it out the other. Master the "staring at the wall look" when she questions you. You dont have to give her any explanations. She is not 'mummy' and your kid told her so. Let her deal with it. (or if she is really annoying, tell her ur son learned it at school, they had a lesson about relationships in family)