what should I reply?

hi,

My relationship with in laws is bare minimum for the past few months, though it has been cold wars from the first month of marriage. The relationship hit the base when my fil told me I have no voice to speak or suggest on my dh's financial matters. Long story in short,from the first day of marriage he indirectly said that I should not voice my opinions on my dh's financial and all this time I acted deaf but few months back he directly questioned me how can I transfer money from dh's account to my account. that was his limit of interference and I told him," fil, this is your limit. I am not answerable to you and whatever I do is with my dh's knowledge and permission. We don't want another person rule our financials." then there was a huge drama though it happened few months back this is still in my heart.

On diwali day, he called to wish me and said I have credited Rs2000 to my dh's account for diwali. for this I did not reply. now he have credited Rs 1000 for our wedding anniv. on my dh's account and probably he will be telling this to me. I really think of giving this reply, " fil, any financial matter you can say to your son and not me."

this time I need to give him back. I need your help for better answers may be better words. Please pour in your suggestions.

 

Hi Ragini,
I am tired being blunt and deaf every time. Now I have started giving them the reply they deserve. being silent I have not gained any good rather it took toll on my health for suppressing my feeling. from my experience for the past few times with in laws, I honestly say, once I reply to their nasty comments I get peace of mind.
My fil's tongue has this sickness which needs treatment.One dosage of reply keeps his mouth shut for a few weeks. This is how I have seen my fil, Once I give the reply he stays quiet for few weeks, if not I hear from him either directly or indirectly every other day. So i get ready with my next dosage. This is how I treat my fil's tongue for his sickness from attacking my heart.

 

Hi oyster,

Yes you are right. there are times when they behaved as I predicted and there have been times the situation didn't even arise. If he did not tell me, Then fine else I am preparing myself.
do you have a suggestion of words for me ?
please share.

 

Ragini, If I am going to say ok and give a shrug, I am sure i will post another venting thread. Isn't a planning thread better than a venting thread ?