worried abt past issues

You think women would be able to understand another woman's pain but it is awful to see them making a Dils life miserable like this. Alas when will this stop and women will become each others ally and help one another face the troubles that life throws at us.

Just give them back i say.When she said that money was wasted in going to the temple as u did not fall pregnant just say ya another thing i requested from God was that i hope i am treated nicely but certainly money wasted there too as look at how i am being treated.When sil says u r jealous sarcastically say yes i am jealous of ur sweet gentle nature , how i wish i could empathise with other womens' problems just like you.

Give back sometimes and also totally ignore other times when u dont have the energy .Develop a thick skin and any negative thing they say let it be like water on a ducks back in other words dont let it affect u one tiny bit.all the best.

 

If people are so bad - better don't waste time, keep away and don't maintain social relationship too - if people ask why you don't come for family functions - do say it is because of the ill treatment. Let them know so that they don't trouble you further.

Be polite but stern when you say this.

 

Yes you husband is telling the right thing IGNORE. Because you will get this kind of people everywhere. Just wait for your time. Time will heal everything. You need utter a word as well. but if you feel sometimes you can but remember your words as it can be counter attacked later sometime

 

You have your DH at your side !!!! That is all counts !!!

As your DH says, ignore, ignore, ignore.

 

Op - do you think you are over reacting??? I think you are under- reacting. You PIL or SIL deserve no respect. You can either cut contact with them (while ttc you really don't need their poison in your life) or give as good as you get. At least out of fear of retaliation, they will leave you alone.

I am not sure how it is possible to ignore the very people who are supposed to be family and should love and support you while going through the painful journey of ttc.

 

Crass people!
I would limit contact to the bare minimum, and restrict your interaction with them once you have your baby.

 

Lady, your MIL and SIL are MEAN. They are not behaving with you in a humane way. And how dare they drag your mother into this? And are you as a woman only at fault for not having a kid? Why don't they ever treat their son the same way? It shows how they discriminate only against you. Don't excuse in this matter. Keep a mile away from them, do not call, talk and avoid in every way possible. Having a child is a personal matter between the couple, you are the ones who will enjoy or take the trouble in raising that child, whatever the reason of not having a child, by reason or by choice it is ONLY between you two. By NOT getting affected you will be putting across that thinking to them. Tell them directly they are being mean and hurtful and then keep a distance. No relationship whatsoever. And yes, your husband has to speak up and tell them to keep quiet, till then they will continue to behave so.

 

Reduce contacts with them.Stop talking to mil sil.
That's really cruel behavior on their part.