feeling frustrated

People say random things when drunk!! And buying a land, building a house.... do you even know the amount of time the process will take? If all this ever materializes, there will be plenty of time to "prepare" them! So don't sit and start stressing about something that is not even a concrete plan.

As for MIL/FIL going for a walk alone.... you have seen so many people in these forums complaining that they do not get alone time with their husbands when in-laws visit. The roles seem to be reversed in your case. If they want to spend time by themselves, what is the big deal? After dealing with an active toddler all day, they probably want some time by themselves. Why do you want to begrudge them that?

For all you know, if your husband really went and spoke to his dad about his land buying plans and home building plans, he would probably blink and wonder what he is blabbering! He probably doesn't even remember that he said such a thing!

 

Nothing wrong with your mil's behavior Op.She takes care of your child all day and needs some personal time to herself with her husband.Be happy that she is giving you your personal space with your child.If she wants to go out with her husband.....send them off with a big smile and greet them back with hot tea.Remember...while you were out,they were also working at home.Besides they are older and get physically and mentally tired faster.

Your husband is absolutely right here.Right now it is a dream castle....Let them first buy the land and make plans.If you all are contributing too...then you can all be a part of the design planning and give suggestions.

Right now...just chill and enjoy your time. Give them their space so that taking care of your child remains an enjoyable experience for them too.Make them comfortable and show your appreciation for the help.You have no idea how lucky you are.Your mil wants to spend time with her husband rather than your husband alone or your son alone.

 

Why do you not make breakfast for them? Is it that they have special tastes and you don't know how to do it or is it that you just don't want to?

I can understand if you are running around and are busy, but when you don't have anything to do. Is that what you would do if you had guests at home?

 

Then you should ask then if they would like you to make breakfast for them.

 

IL-ites are super polite and sugar coat. They usually sugarcoat when needed to bitter medicine to OPs.
mother80 - can i put it bluntly -if ur purpose is to get honest feedback, u can do lot better to take care of the nice mil and fil. Stop ur laziness and make decent brkfast (when u can). Dont like my direct post, so be it.

 

Why are you thinking of problems where there are none? I usually eat cereal or something in the morning, MIL eats oats and FIL eats whatever MIL gives him! I usually just let MIL make their own breakfast because FIL is quite choosy and I think it is best to leave them to their tastes! And MIL likes it that way because she also that way thinks she has something to do in the house.
In the evenings, I would feel like eating noodles or something which they won't, so usually even in the evening, I tell them to make what they want for themselves and not bother about making dinner for me. I am guessing it is the same in your case too!! I have never felt that I am a bad DIL or anything.

I think it is good that you're letting her have her way in the kitchen.. she probably feels at home actually being able to do what she wants.