pressure for using gifted clothes

Since you have worn those dresses on several occasions than just tell your SIL politely that "I love those dresses and have worn them many a times, but I want to wear my other dresses too". Even If she complains after that let it be and ignore it. f your MIL comes and ask you about it repeat the same line. You don't always have to wear the dresses that you SIL or MIL has gifted you. If they pester you even after this, just say yes in front of them and wear whatever you like.

Just put your foot down politely and tactfully, If you'll tell upfront it will lead to a stupid emotional drama and you will end up becoming a big villain in front of the whole family.
Hope this helps.

 

hi,
Wear the dresses to a function thats held in SILs house. If not possible tell her that you are saving it for a special occasion or blouse not stitched or repeated on all photos as reason .If she is not still okay gift her unsuitable clothes and insist on her wearing it to all functions(give the same treatment).

 

I just don't understand this control freak nature of people.How the hell do they expect adults to wear what they want? Your sil just doesn't know how to take a hint. Just tell her you you have a different style of dressing .Tell her you have worn the clothes a few times and would like to be have the freedom to decide what you want to wear .Also tell her to stop complaining to outsiders like a little child.

 

some people can just be stubborn and as yellowmango rightly said dont know how to take a hint. I am assuming the dress materials that she gave might be churidar suits and salwar kameez? May be you can start wearing them at home during weekends or while grocery/short shoppings.. and just keep saying how u love the dress soo much that you just have the urge to wear it when ever possible. hopefully they will get worn out soon.

sarees i am not very sure.. may be you can try to patch it with laces n few designer works so that u can use it and wear it soon..

 

My mil has given me a deep red silk(i think its silk) very heavy sari! The weight of the sari is more than the combined weight of me n my new fridge!! She expects me to wear it! I tried wearing it once, i got tired trying to wrap it around me!! So i took a break in between! Then resumed trying, once i was done, i looked like a puffer fish! U see i am 5'2 , n a lot of it , i mean the saree has to be stuffed at the waist to mk it my height!! None of the saftey pin wud go all the way! I dont knw how to tell her its impossible for me to carry tht thing around! Its a disaster!! I am scared she might give another one the next time! Tht saree is the reason i paid extra for baggage at the airport!!

People who do not know other people's taste shud nt gift them clothes ! N if they do out of custom, forcing them to wear is worse!!

 

That was funny!...may be not for you!

 

Nope it wasnt!! :drowning :tongue

 

Try doing this: Wear all her gifted saris one after the another(for this attend a few extra parties), inform SIL you are wearing it and then pack them for good! Make a note of which one you wore where and take a snap of yourself on that occasion with others. After that if she insists, remind her you don't want to REPEAT dresses!

 

Its your sils time pass....she laves home hoping that you wont wear her saree and she can pester you. Say OK with a smile everytime...time and again. Wear what you want to ...may be she will get the message..?