Dear Mothers,Please lend me your ears!

Hi Mithila,

PORUTHAR BHOOMI AALWAR

Cheers,
Lakshmi.

My dear kavya,
My daughter who also became indignant like you on hearing about the not so pleasant episodes that happened in my younger days,asked me the same question.What did you gain by being patient.Did they give you an award?
I could have persuaded my husband that we go separately or we cut off relations with them or I could have said,"You pl continue your relationship with your people Iam not coming there"What would have happened?Somwhere in my heart would have lurked the guilty feeling that I did not handle the situation properly.I would have thought,"May be I should have been a little more patient"
My husband would have become sad and belittled in front of his people because his wife was not ready to be with him .
I agree with you 100% that I lost my youth,being sad and having to listen to harsh words.Youth will never come back.I paid a price for the respect that I have earned.I feel that it is worth.I have earned respect from my husband who is a straightforward kind caring husband.My brothers in law who did not want a postgraduate as their sil because they were not ,today give me the love affection and respect that they dont even give their mother.Is it worth having to put up with nonsense?I feel,my friend that it is worth.
Situations in everybody's life differ and perceptions of people differ but the old saying that a little bit of patience,a little bit of tolerance go a long way in building up relationship is time tested.
I appreciate the spirit with which you have come out with your comment.
May God bless you, kavya ,and may you see and enjoy only sunshine days in your life.
All the best.
mithila kannan

Dear Vidhya,
if we let hatred and cynicism corrupt our soul too, then we'll be no different from them..being young should give us the strength to be patient..
I read your above said words again and again.I am sure things are going to be better for you in the days to come.You come across as a fine young woman,all the best.
mithila kannan.
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Dear Lakshmi,
Athuthan sari.
mithila kannan

Hi Mithila,

How can you write like this??? Please! before u get startled let me tell you that each of your snippets are though provoking and extremely touching..may it be humour packages or be it advices or daily incidents.You have a knack of glueing readers to your posts.I want to tell you I thoroughly enjoy whatever you write.You must be one great lady to look upto! I am getting to be your biggest fan! Mithila, whats next??????:)


Warm Regards,
Purnima

My dear Purnima,
Really on reading the first words of your mail my heart stopped for a minute,I thought a friend is getting upset with me for sharing personal details on a platform viewed all over the world.When I read the entire mail I was happy.Thank you for the generous compliment.I love writing and when I write here I talk to you,my friends.
mithila kannan

hi
good one.

Dear Mami,

Somehow missed this post. A real thought provoking one. I will remember the same when the time comes.
But I need to tell you here, during my newly married days, if I used to complain about my DH or his family. My parents used to be quiet and tried to make me see reason. As time went by my mother used to get bit emotional but my dad was the torch bearer. He used to guide me and tell me abt the positive side of my DH and in laws. Maybe I learnt a lot from him as to how to balance in a joint family.

This will be a homage to him as he is no more.

Hi Mitila Madam,

A good post. I am blessed with a mom like that. When ever I said something about my MIL she will hear to that and will not say anything.

Regards
Karthi

dearest Mithila mam,

wonderful post as usual...I shall take your word that it is indeed worthwhile to tolerate certain unpleasent comments in the interest of having an affectionate family in the end.....I really admire u ....for the way u bear no grudges against your sils and mil ...ur attitude to life and the way u want to share your experiences to better the lives of your readers...
Coming to this post I must say I am extremely proud of my mother acting only as a sounding board and not at all interfering in my life....but dearest mam i pray that I can be like that with my daughter....Right now I definitely do not have the maturity for that and will run to shelter her from any adversities she faces...

Mindi