My SIL(Brother's wife) and me.

Its just a wonderful experience i wanted to share.I hail from liberal brahmin family.I am married to a wonderful person.I am doing MS in Quebec.I have an younger brother who got married and it was purely an arranged marriage.There are so many mil-dil-sil problems in my family.My brother impacted by this before marriage used to say to my mom "see i will take my wife's side once am married as my dad always do.If you are ready for this get me married or else i will be your son always." we all used to laugh at this statement.My sil is the sweetest person in this world.she is a very bold person.I am always insipred by the way she presents herself.After marriage itself my brother told my mom that she doesnt have any beliefs over thaali,metti and no one should compel her to wear.My family doesnt have anyproblem with this,since they have seen a rebellious girl like me in their family.I have seen my replica in her somany times.My parents are ahead of one generation in their thinking.But I wanted to maintain a good relationship with my sil. I am totally agaist rituals that degrades women directly or indirectly.marriage expenses,it was shared by both parents.Simply before seeking alliance for my brother,i was just advising my mom and told her that she should not behave like a wife to her son.And so my mom is so close to me than my brother.My mom is very concious on not to create insecurity between my brother and sil ,so she will stay away from them.During nalungu also,i accomanied my sil and no chauvenistic rituals like namaskaram to husband by sil was done.After marriage both the couple were let free in their own house.They were not taken to either of the parents place.Instead myself and my husband gifted my brother and sweetest sil,a honeymoon package and I booked 4 tickets in boat house,kerala for my parents and her parents so that they might get a chance to understand themselves. My father is totally against joint family system and he himself is a feminist. My mom even though potray herself as a bold lady and who is totally against patriarchy, sometimes she used to complain my sil as she eats nonveg.For that i told her "SIL should be treated the same way as you would treat my husband.Your son doesnt have problem with this.Its his wife.You have to accept her for what and how she is.period" .But she will not poke her nose into my brothers and sil's business.I maintain a great relationship with my sil's sweetest sister and her parents.And now my mom started loving her just the way she is. And i love my Sil more than my brother.But i will not torture them and take their private time.i will speak with her only 10 mins a week.Eventhough we are like close friends,i will not ask her and my brother about their financial plans and i will not suggest anything unless asked.But my love towards her is growing rapidly.Since i give more importance to her than my brother,she loves me a lot.If i tried to dominate my sil,then i would have probably lost my sil's relationship and brother.This post is just to share my relationship with sil.simply a pugalaram maalai of my sil.

PS: I should thank indusladies since i read a lot of threads which advises how one should be a good sisterinlaw.I literally homeworked a lot My big thanks to my feminist husband who taught me how to be a good sil.