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I need some female opinions.
My fiance and I both live in the west but not on the same continent. Both of us have never lived in India at all. We are both Indians and it's not an arranged marriage. She's also my cousin but lets not get into how that happened. It just did, something I NEVER thought I'd do in my life. The girl I was dating before her was Chinese and I almost proposed. Marrying my cousin is something that I've never considered. It just happened. We only met each other when we were in our mid 20s for the first time.
My dad's a jackass so my mother and sister live with me since I'm the oldest. My fiancee has dropped hints she wants her mother to come live with us. I really don't want this. There's enough space as it's a huge house, but her mother is the really pushy and opinionated and would be the MIL that everyone hates. My mother on the hand is one of those people who never gets involved in other people's business, because her MIL was a witch. I know my mother will never say anything or get involved with anything unless she was asked to. Also my future MIL has 3 other sons as old as me and her husband is dead.
How do I handle this? I don't mind if we had to send her mother money and stuff but there's no way I'm letting her mother move in permanently. One because her mother is overbearing, opinionated and will do whatever she wants. I really doubt she's going to listen to me even though it's my house since she's my aunt. In fact I KNOW she's going to do whatever she wants without taking my wishes into consideration. So rather than be forced to be really rude eventually I'm going to head off the trouble by not letting her move in.
What do the ladies think about this? How do you think I should handle this? I'd ask my friends but most of them aren't S.Asian and don't get the culture.