Please friends..I really need your help!!!!

Dear Snehal

From what you have mentioned I feel cons weight more for you to come back to India. But ofcourse peace of mind what you mentioned is equally important. Is it only you who is homesick or your DH too? Also you havent mentioned how old your DD is, I assume she mite be 3-7yrs of age, think from her perspective too. If changing placed is making you sad, she is at an age where she needs steady environment. Ofcourse there are army kids n all, but personally we shifted residence & eventually school & I suffered a lot accademically plus I initially could not make new friends easily. So give it a thorough though once again before you arrive at a decision.

 

Hi,

Its better you think wise and take any decision. Cos, i feel you can stay there itself or shift to UK as your hubby says. It would be the same even if you come back to Delhi. Presently you are homesick.. If you come and be here with in-laws you will become totally sick and exhausted for they way they would treat you as you have already told they are pathetic. Why do you feel yourself so low?? Make your time get utilized by doing any work. You have your DD. I guess your time mite pass in looking after her, playing with her etc.. Meantime try making friends. Go out with your Hubby and DD. So think and decide from all aspects instead of suffering later..

 

OP, I hate to sound rude. But you want to relocate only becoz you miss out on functions and delhi environment. If so you shud have done it long time ago instead of now. You are talking about sacrificing your husband;s career for this relocation .Is it worth it. Your SIL,IL's will sit on your head. Are you ready for that? Here we say it will be nice to have an understanding husband .You do have it. He knows the cons of coming back.Do you want to be miserable in 1 month of returning.You will be. Becoz IL's heap everything to Son and DIL who escaped responsibility by being abroad.

Attending functions, meeting friends ,cousins wont be there every moment.Even they will be busy with their lives.
If you feel your hubby will get a job in Delhi after 3 months of bench there, be ready for more. Now industry in India is more like abroad. Lay offs,finding jobs are all prevelant.Why do you want to invite trouble just becoz u miss Delhi environment. One glaring factor is your husband doesnt want to move. He will resent you after moving back , if he doesnt like it.

Think about all this. Not to favor abroad, but my in laws and monster SIL wud have driven me to loony bin if I was in India. I miss India, but not at the cost of sanity.Why dont you go to UK. Its not very far from India. You can come and go as you please. Give it a shot. There are lots of Indians there. You wont feel homesick. Good Luck.

 

My Vote - UK

 

Snehal....I can understand how bad it is to be homesick. But think of your DD's schooling & friends, your ILs behaviour when you are here plus the income factor. My hubby is an instru engg & his area of job was mostly in northern side. He did not want to keep travelling after marriage n kid so quit that & started his own set up. He could have got something in instrumentation here also but it would have been in sales. He is not a typical sales guy & so took the decision otherwise. Think what if you come back to Delhi & your DH doesnt get projects of his interest, then that will be financial loss too.

 

OP you seems to be totaly immatured, please never ever miss the good opprtunity just for the sake of relatives and functions......this the time to earn and save for you and your kids future......even i am staying out of india for more than 10 years and even i miss my family and friends but our life is more important than anyone else in this world,just tell ur husband to take up the uk
project and enjoy your life without any tentions.....remember "opportunity knocks the door only once".......good luck...

 

Hello Snehal26,

Since there are not many Indians and language is a lil bit of barrier i think u feel more lonely in Germany.. But in Uk i bet its going to be fun n good.. u wont miss India too much..

I understand Delhi is an awesome place but ur husband may not be able to find a satisfactory job there. Are u sure u will have peace of mind once u r in Delhi? think about it..

U hv to set ur priorities and make it your world..

For now shift to UK with the hope tht all will be well n try finding job which ll keep u engaged.. Then u hv a lovely daughter who can keep u on ur toes ... Inspite of all this if u dont like it n hv no peace of mind, u can think on shifting bck to india but pls dont hv restriction as Delhi only... N may be if ur hubby doesnt like to come to India n u dont like staying abroad u hv to find mid path, like u visit him fa 2-3 mnths evry 6 mnths n so...

PS: In case u r back to India am sure u r gonna miss ur prev lifestyle...

 

i think u are really homesick.. so first thingg.. take a break and go stay with your parents for a while....