Negative vibes

I am not sure where to post this

off late, I have started wondering whether our negative actions could lead to bad lucks and issues in our lives?
Although one is responsible for their life, when it comes to marriage the success and failure of a partner would have a certain level of affect in their family members lives too (hubby-wife, kids)

I have been always positive. I have been always helpful and supportive to others, and I never wished bad luck on others. Never even felt jealous on someone's success. So, I wait for my turn, and it always come at the right time without any delay. I am normally considered as a successful lucky woman by all. :coffee

My husband on the other hand is very different from me. He is the same as his parents and family. He has been always negative, not so supportive on others. Inhuman to ill-fated people, and he wish bad luck on others if he is against them.
He criticize others publicly to the level of hurting them
He feels immense happiness when someone fails in something that he was also unable to pass.
This is exactly how his parents and siblings are. Therefore, they have all enemies, and there are people those wanted to take revenge on them.

Now the problem is....

Whenever we plan on something... building or hosting a party or starting a business... We normally do it as it comes.
But my husband keep on thinking the negatives, and failures that may come along. He stresses out so much even before the event starts.
He suspect on others and thinks they are here to spoil the event
Because of his actions, people actually get upset with us, and wish us bad luck as they might have been hurt - who knows
Because of this, whatever the joint venture that I start with my husband end up as failure as he feared.

He thinks doing some remedy in temple would turn the luck... But I think, being good with people and behaving human is enough.

Whatever is done solely by me is a success so far. I even have strangers to help me here and there. But when I get my husband involve, relatives too run away.

My siblings too do the same level of projects on their own, and get success like the way as I was alone. But why it is always a failure and a matter of curse by others whenever it is a joint venture with my husband?

It is his bad luck affecting both or his bad behavior affecting us?

He being a PHD holder has difficult time in securing a job
His brother being a MD doctor has problems with his career, and finding a life partner (6 years trying with no luck)
His parents always have problems at home, and with neighbors

They trust on dogs and cats than people. So, they are always negative when it comes to anything

They thing their stars are the reason... They spend a lot for remedies, but never change their behavior

I fear, I and my kids will also going to be affected the same with negatively, bad luck and people's cursing because of them...:bonk

 

I do not believe in astrology. I have a perfect control over my life, and I do believe in God for whatever the needs/wants or issues that I face.
My problem is with my husband, who doesn't have control over his life due to various reasons, and his negative vibes sometimes affect me as well, whenever I join hands together with him.

He speaks almost daily with the astrologer and does remedies and spend quite a lot of money and energy in to it. But all in vain.

I think he must change, and see the world positively and have some positive human nature to get positive outcomes.

 

I dont even want to change my in laws or their mind set. I or my kid never mingle with them either, so I have no worries about my little ones.
My problem is my husband. I can slowly change him if he continuously lives with me and listens/observes me. But unfortunately he lives with us, but goes to his parents often (they are our neighbors) and gets all the ill-stuff from them. Which hinders him from seeing the good things from our side.

I tried explaining him several times as to how I get things done so easily and how others are willing to help me and my siblings always. Also I explained to him the good lucks that we receive out from the good wishes of others.
Ya.. He listens.. and tries a bit to change too. But again... in laws come and spoils him with something else. They would say, it is your stars.. You must please the stars by paying $... to this astro, and do this pooja and remedy etc..etc.. else your fate will be much more bad than this.

He being already a negative man with lots of fear, will do whatever their demands to come out of this perceived danger. All my advises seems modern words for him.. but he frankly trust their tradition only.

I have no problem if this is limited only with him... My worry is that I also get affected, or face challenges from all the sources because of him. Because of his negativity and ill luck. The bad luck that affects him also affect me.. Although I don't fail, but face tough time unlike before.
I frankly know it is the cursing of people, and lack of support from others. They do not support us because they do not like my husband and his talks. They try to work behind our backs because they wanted to take revenge on my husband. How can one call all this as ill fate? Because this fate is earned by you... Instead of confronting or being rude with others, he could have avoided such problems to make them happy.. hence let them help us. See, because of his nature, who is ultimately suffering????

 

Exactly... This is what I think...

It is very simple... When you smile at one person in the morning, he would not think bad of you. But when you are rude with the same person for whatever the simple matter, the person will never help you again.
When times come to you to seek help from that person, you may find it tough.. because he may refuse to help you... That is not your bad luck, but bad behavior.

I get easy helps from everyone, hence my luck is always good. But he doesn't/..