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    Default I am pregnant but dont want baby

    Hi

    I am newly married (date:10-september-2010). I got periods on 19/sep/10.
    It has been 32 days from my origin of previous periods time till now(i.e till 20/oct/10)

    Today I went to doctor and she told that i am positve in pregnancy test.

    When could this conceiveing intercourse would have taken placed?Is that during my ovulation period i.e the days between that 10 days after 19/sep/2010 and 10 days before my next period date-19/oct/2010..?

    The important thing is i dont want baby now .I am newly married and i want to enjoy life for one year nearly.My current age is 27.
    When asked to doctor she told,there is no tablets to prevent baby formation after the pregnancy test is positive.Is that true?

    She told that she could have helped if i had approached her before having intercourse with my husband(By giving tablets before intercourse).

    She also added that,If DNC is performed which is first time for me( DNC for first baby),then there is no guarantee for the formation of second baby....
    Is that true?

    Please help me,I dont want baby now....

    thanks
    kdk


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    Default Re: I am pregnant but dont want baby

    Yes, what the doctor said is 100% true one of our relative went and aborted her first baby without her DH's knowledge along with her mom.IT has been nearly 25 years of their marriage and no kids.Is that necessary ?


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    Default Re: I am pregnant but dont want baby

    kdk, if you have sex without any protection then chances are pregnancy is bound to happen.

    What is your husband's opinion on this?

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    Default Re: I am pregnant but dont want baby

    Quote Originally Posted by kdk View Post
    Hi

    I am newly married (date:10-september-2010). I got periods on 19/sep/10.
    It has been 32 days from my origin of previous periods time till now(i.e till 20/oct/10)

    Today I went to doctor and she told that i am positve in pregnancy test.

    When could this conceiveing intercourse would have taken placed?Is that during my ovulation period i.e the days between that 10 days after 19/sep/2010 and 10 days before my next period date-19/oct/2010..?
    Yes, this happened when you were ovulating.
    The important thing is i dont want baby now .I am newly married and i want to enjoy life for one year nearly.My current age is 27.
    When asked to doctor she told,there is no tablets to prevent baby formation after the pregnancy test is positive.Is that true?
    Its called abortion, I am sure you heard of this before. Termination of a fetus can very well happen with pill's (prescription drugs) if its in the early stages. Fetus can also be removed through surgery. You need to find another doctor who would assist you with this.

    She told that she could have helped if i had approached her before having intercourse with my husband(By giving tablets before intercourse).
    She is right. After you conceive, the only way to terminate the growth is through abortion.
    She also added that,If DNC is performed which is first time for me( DNC for first baby),then there is no guarantee for the formation of second baby....
    Is that true?
    DNC at this early stage is uncommon. I am sure you can still go for suction aspiration or even pills to terminate the pregnancy at this early stage.
    Please help me,I dont want baby now....

    thanks
    kdk
    Please find my answers in blue above. I suggest you go to a good doctor where they give you options which are suitable to you. Like I said, DNC at this early stage is uncommon.

    EDIT: I am not sure if your doctor has explained you how D&C works. It requires sedation and the method is also invasive. So, abortion though this method is fairly uncommon.
    You just need to go to a bigger hospital where they give you more options.

    Last edited by Rakhii; 20th October 2010 at 10:23 PM.

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    Default Re: I am pregnant but dont want baby

    Make sure you talk to your Husband, and your doctor to understand the options and what your husband's input is as well.

    You can also talk to your family if you feel they are good for an open discussion.

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    Default Re: I am pregnant but dont want baby

    hi
    I husband and family members also says dont want baby for now...
    Can i take pills to prevent baby forming or whether i want to opt for DNC only?
    What pills can i take for these much long gap of pregnancy period?
    Can i get through in medical shop,as doctor is not giving pills?
    Is this early stage for taking pills or it is late which leads to chose DNC?


    thanks
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    Default Re: I am pregnant but dont want baby

    Dear kdk

    When many ladies are wanting to have a baby and not getting and when you have conceived with God's grace, my opinion is to have the baby. If you do something now and dont have the baby later in life you have to repent

    This is my opinion

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    Default Re: I am pregnant but dont want baby

    Quote Originally Posted by iyerviji View Post
    Dear kdk

    When many ladies are wanting to have a baby and not getting and when you have conceived with God's grace, my opinion is to have the baby. If you do something now and dont have the baby later in life you have to repent

    This is my opinion

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    Why god give something to someone who dont want and dont give the same when someone wants it desperately........


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    Default Re: I am pregnant but dont want baby

    Off topic SR09: Ans to your question: God's cruel.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SR09 View Post
    God is not seeing the right person to give what they want at the right time.
    Why god give something to someone who dont want and dont give the same when someone wants it desperately........
    SR09...u took the words right out of my heart.......I am here married for 11 years to my wonderful husband and I can't have a baby.........I have given up.

    LIFE IS BLOODY HELL NOT FAIR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Last edited by gjaya; 21st October 2010 at 07:53 AM.
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