1. How to Build Positivity in Married Life? : Click Here
    Dismiss Notice

Parents are the only one who are truly affected by our happiness, well being,sadness

Discussion in 'Parents & Siblings' started by iyerviji, Dec 1, 2015.

  1. iyerviji

    iyerviji IL Hall of Fame

    Messages:
    34,594
    Likes Received:
    28,761
    Trophy Points:
    640
    Gender:
    Female
    [h=2]"Never complain about what your parents couldn't give you. It was probably all they had."

    In our times parents were not well of as there was only one earning member in the family but they brought us up with love and affection. They struggled a lot to make a living . Our parents not only took care of us but also their siblings till they got married. Since it was a joint family we used to get love from everyone and there was time for everything. Everything used to be well planned and we were taught everything . Parents love for children had no boundaries. Today if we are successful and achieved our goals and living happily it is because of them and God's blessings.

    So we have to always respect our parents and do everything for them when they are there so that later we dont regret. I feel happy God gave me the mind to take care of my parents, grandmother, mother in law, brother in law , thats why today after retirement I am living a happy life though there are problems and worries about my children as they are not with us. After marriage daughters have to be in their in law's house. and sons have to be where their job is. Now a days job is very necessary so both husband and wife have to work as everyone needs a well furnished house.

    Many of the children now a days are abroad so the parents are left alone, but that gives them opportunity to lead their life as they wish , going to temples andother spiritual programmes . Children also have the opportunity to live independently and learn what is life,what all difficulties they have to go through .


    Don’t worry that your children never listen to you, worry that they are always watching you.

    Got this story from Google, so thought of sharing


    One young man went to apply for a managerial position in a big company.
    He passed the initial interview, and now would meet the director for the final interview.
    The director discovered from his CV that the youth’s academic achievements were excellent.
    He asked, Did you obtain any scholarships in school…?
    the youth answered “NO”.

    Who paid for your school fees…?
    ” Parents “, he replied.

    “Where did they work……?”
    “They worked as clothes cleaner.”
    The director requested the youth to show his hands.
    The youth showed a pair of hands that were smooth and perfect.

    “Have you ever helped your parents wash the clothes ?”
    “Never, my parents always wanted me to study and read more books.
    Besides, my parents can wash clothes faster than me.

    The director said, “I have a request.
    When you go home today, go and clean your parents hands, and then see me tomorrow morning.
    The youth felt dejected.
    When he went back home, he asked his parents to let him clean their hands.
    His parents felt strange, happy but with mixed feelings,
    They showed their hands to their son.

    The youth cleaned their hands slowly.
    His tear fell as he did that.
    It was the first time he noticed that his parents hands were so wrinkled, and there were so many bruises in their hands.

    Some bruises were so painful that they winced when he touched it.
    This was the first time the youth realized that it was this pair of hands that washed the clothes everyday to enable him to pay the school fees.
    The bruises in the hands were the price that the parents had to pay for his education, his school activities and his future.
    After cleaning his parents hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for them.
    That night, parents and son talked for a very long time.
    Next morning, the youth went to the director’s office.
    The Director noticed the tears in the youth’s eyes, when he asked:
    “Can you tell me what have you done and learned yesterday in your house….?”
    The youth answered,
    I cleaned my parents hand, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes’

    “I now know what appreciation is.
    Without my parents, I would not be who I am today…

    By helping my parents, only now do I realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done on your own And I have come to appreciate the importance and value of helping one’s family.
    The director said,
    “This is what I am looking for in a manager.
    I want to recruit a person who can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the sufferings of others to get things done, and a person who would not put money as his only goal in life.”

    “You are hired.”
    A child, who has been protected and habitually given whatever he wanted, would develop an “entitlement mentality” and would always put himself first.
    He would be ignorant of his parent’s efforts.
    If we are this kind of protective parents, are we really showing love or are we destroying our children instead…?
    You can let your child live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano, watch on a big screen TV.
    BUT,
    when you are cutting grass, watering the plants, cleaning up the house or after a meal washing the plates and bowls, etc. then please let them experience it together with their brothers and sisters.

    It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way.
    You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one day their hair will grow grey, same as the parents of that young person.
    The most important thing is your child learns how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learns the need to work with others to get things done…











    [/h]
     
    5 people like this.
    Loading...

  2. iyerviji

    iyerviji IL Hall of Fame

    Messages:
    34,594
    Likes Received:
    28,761
    Trophy Points:
    640
    Gender:
    Female
    Re: Parents are the only one who are truly affected by our happiness, well being,sadn

    Thanks for the likes @vaidehi71 and @pinkydarling which made my day
     
  3. divshiri87

    divshiri87 Gold IL'ite

    Messages:
    604
    Likes Received:
    441
    Trophy Points:
    138
    Gender:
    Female
    Re: Parents are the only one who are truly affected by our happiness, well being,sadn

    Viji ma, it was indeed a beautiful post and touched my heart.. Tears rolled down when i read.. First two lines attracted me alot. I miss them alot after my marriage..
     
    1 person likes this.
  4. iyerviji

    iyerviji IL Hall of Fame

    Messages:
    34,594
    Likes Received:
    28,761
    Trophy Points:
    640
    Gender:
    Female
    Re: Parents are the only one who are truly affected by our happiness, well being,sadn

    Divshiri dear thanks for the first feedback which made my day, glad to know it is a beautiful post and it touched you rheart. I think every daughter miss their parents after marriage, if they are in the same city its ok otherwise they miss them more because they cant see them often
     

Share This Page