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  1. Sep 3, 2015 #1
    ChennaiExpress

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    I always had a habit of changing the channel, or mimimizing computer window when my Dad comes in room.

    I'm not doing anything wrong (it's all G-rated), but I don't like the judgement. I want to be comfortable finding out what I like, what makes me happy before I share with anyone.

    Now I am doing paintings for (1) stress relief (2) mindfulness (3) learning how different colors blend

    And it helps with my day-to-day job as well.

    I am also posting samples of my artwork on my LinkedIn account. Because sometimes, an Employer may be looking for well-rounded worker, not just someone who "picks things up and puts them down".

    So when I was on LinkedIn and my Dad came in the room, but habit I minimized the page.

    He asked why you always do that. I really didn't want to say. Then he asked if it's something he shouldn't know about. Then I explained I was doing something for job-search and I didn't want him to see and say bad comment.

    Then he said that if I show what I am doing, it will open up lot of channels for discussion and understanding.

    Um, perhaps that is true, but now after going through certain storms (I really don't want to keep rehashing that part of my life, it's annoying), I feel that job, hobbies, interests, i.e things that make you generate happiness from WITHIN is more important and that happiness is your true life partner (if a man wants a woman, he should chase her, not other way around ~~~ agree?).


    What kind of relationship do you have with a parent who
    1. cares for you
    2. is by your side at your darkest hour
    3. keeps you first place
    4. makes really insulting jokes (which makes me laugh) about people who are not nice to you

    Do you share everything with that parent, confide in everything with that parent, or do you keep some parts private, simply because you are not ready to share them (i.e. artwork, how you post online resume, etc)
     
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  2. Sep 3, 2015 #2
    Jazmine83

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    I just got reminded of this poem by Gibran :p

    Your children are not your children.
    They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
    They come through you but not from you,
    And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.


    You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
    For they have their own thoughts.
    You may house their bodies but not their souls,
    For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
    which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
    You may strive to be like them,
    but seek not to make them like you.
    For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.


    You are the bows from which your children
    as living arrows are sent forth.
    The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
    and He bends you with His might
    that His arrows may go swift and far.
    Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
    For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
    so He loves also the bow that is stable.
     
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    ChennaiExpress

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    That's just beautiful

    Wow


    Yeah, nothing wrong with having my own thoughts! And likewise, I must realize that my children (God-willing) will see wonderful things that I cannot begin to dream of.


    This made me want to cry. It's so poignant.
     
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  4. Oct 6, 2015 #4
    twinklingstar

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    @chennaiexpress - i really dont know ur storm in life. but feel u should open up with ur parents. u should have confidence in them that they can guide,help,suggest, support u in ur life.
    all the best dear. but good that thru ur paintings and all u r getting busy and keeping peace of mind.
    all the best dear
     
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