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  1. yellowmango

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    Spinster sisters attack brother, one kills herself.


    CHENNAI: In a case both bizarre and brutal, two unmarried sisters tried to kill their younger brother because he intended to get married, then tried to kill themselves, one dying of self-inflicted injuries to the throat, in Perungalathur on the out skirts of the city on Sunday evening.

    Manigandan, 32, on Friday informed his sisters Mahadevi, 38, Nirmala Devi, 36, that he planned to get married, an investigating officer said. They instantly voiced their disapproval as he was the sole bread winner of the family.

    "Manigandan and his sisters lived together after their father, Mangalanathan, remarried after their mother died," the officer said. "He lives in Erode and runs a restaurant there."

    Manigandan left home in anger when his sisters said he could not get married. When he returned home on Sunday, he and his sisters again got into an argument on the issue.

    "Mahadevi and Nirmala hit him on the head with a clothes iron and slit his throat," the officer said. "He was injured but somehow escaped from the house and neighbours rushed him to a private hospital."


    Doctors at the hospital said he required 46 stitches for wounds to the head and neck.

    Realising that they would face charges of attempted murder, the sisters panicked. They tried to kill themselves by slitting their throats.

    By then the neighbours had alerted the Perungalathur police about the attack on Manigandan.

    Policemen went to the house and, finding it locked, broke open the door. They found Nirmala dead and Mahadevi unconscious and bleeding profusely. They rushed her to Rajiv Gandhi Government General Hospital and sent Nirmala's body to the Chromepet Government Hospital for postmortem.

    "Manigandan and his sister Mahadevi are in critical condition," the officer said.

    Neighbours told the police that the sisters were graduates and Manigandan had completed his bachelor's degree and worked for a private company.


    Police contacted Manigandan's father Mangalanathan and he arrived in the city on Monday afternoon and claimed Nirmala's body after doctors completed the postmortem.

    Spinster sisters attack brother, one kills herself - The Times of India
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    Who is to blame for this sad incidence.
    Society?....Which expects a brother to take care of his equally educated elder sisters for life?...why?

    The father?....Who gave his daughters a fair education but chose to have a life by remarrying after his first wife died?Is he expected to take care of educated daughters for life?

    Brother? For not making the supreme sacrifice for his adult educated sisters and thinking of himself for a change? Is he not expected to have a life because his sisters chose not to work?

    The sisters?Who decided to go the traditional way of staying dependent on a male member of the family even though they were educated?












     
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  2. abiramivalli

    abiramivalli Senior IL'ite

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    The sisters act can in no way be justified. They have no right to attack their brother who has decided to get married. but why cant the brother have a conscience and settle his sisters down or atleast make a secure life for his unmarried sisters first before he decides to get married. In our society it is hard for the women to live all by themselves that too without financial security.
     
  3. BiriyaniAroma

    BiriyaniAroma Silver IL'ite

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    Felt sick to read the incident !
     
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    SGBV IL Hall of Fame

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    I think it is something to do with the psychological disturbances of the unmarried but matured sisters who have crossed their marriageable age but remained unmarried.

    When you go deep into their problem... The society is to be blamed first.
    Because it is not easy to be married in a certain society unless the person or his place of living is changed otherwise.
    In a given society where certain dowry is expected, along with some responsible person in a family arranges a marriage of a girl. Where caste, religion and every single thing matters.
    Even if her distance cousin's wife's sister has married to a person from a different case, it could still affect her marriage somehow.

    Again, the father is to be blamed. He can not simply leave his children just like that. In many countries children become independent; hence no longer dependent to their
    parents after the age of 18 or 21 (it depends), but there is no gender bias.

    But in countries like India or Pakistan, a female child is a parents' responsibility until she enters her wedlock. Age does not matter here. Even in certain countries, the government pension of their deceased father can still be given to his adult unmarried daughter at the absence of his wife (mom). So, a father can not leave his unmarried daughter just because they are educated.

    Again, education alone cannot give you jobs. You need extra skills to fit for the job market. Otherwise, there wont be unemployment.

    Again a society decides what job suits you better. If not I was born in my society, I wouldn't have had this challenging post. Because I am sure, many educated and capable women around me are not willing to accept this well paid, and highly reputed job only because of the challenges it has. They simply prefer some front line, simple government job instead, and they would wait for their life time to get such jobs.

    Again, it is a matter of their psychological capability to accept. It can't be generalized. Because we here news about random killers in the newspaper on a daily basis, and they are of any kind.

    Whatsoever, it is definitely not the fault of the poor brother who wanted to get married. I wish he could have eloped with the girl whom he wanted to marry, instead of seeking permission from his sick sisters.

    I feel happy about the would be wife here. She escaped from a marital hell... Her luck. Because she would have been pushed into a hell where she would have to face double evil MILs in the name of SILs.
     
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    These people were most probably very disturbed mentally. But you cannot blame the brother (he has the right to get married) or the father (he has no responsibility to care for capable, adult persons). Assuming that the sisters were healthy/not disabled. Of course you can say that the father has failed in the upbringing as the sisters were assuming that someone needs to take care of their financial needs.
     
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    Hello yellow mango.
    It was very disturbing to read the contents of your post.
    Who is to blame ?
    Everybody.
    Why becuase -
    1. The sister for selfishly thinking that they were required to be taken care of, that they should be the only reason for their brother's existence
    2. The father for thinking only of himself and not thinking of getting his daughters married.
    3. The brother for following in his father's footsteps and thinking of his marriage and not his sisters
    4. The society for having such a framework that it is deemed that women are to be taken care of by men, even when they are independent, educated and capable of earning.
     
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    True Madhu...it was indeed very disturbing. I thought for a long time whether to post or not.:cry:
    Madhu...the sisters were older than the brother and had the same education. The father/brother may not have been able to get them married ...but what stopped them from getting jobs and supporting themselves.Life is not only about being married.

    From the way they reacted...it looks like they think the brother should spend the rest of his life taking care of them...forever remain unmarried. Do these women love their brother?It doesn't look like that.If that is the case...why should he be expected to take care of older educated sisters.

    It also shows that the women were probably not the best mannered. It probably would not be easy to get such women married.

    How long is a father supposed to take care of his children? He brought them up and educated them.

    What is surprising is that both of them thought alike. How is that none of the two could think sensibly.
    Secondly....if it was financial insecurity ...or not having any one to take care of them.....then why try to kill him? How would killing him make them financially secure? If they wanted him to take care of them for life....how would he do that with his throat slit?

    It looks more complicated than the usual female financial and social insecurity.
     
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  8. yellowmango

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    Agree SGBV......Do you think these women would be impossible to live with and the father also bailed out ?
     
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    Does blame have to be assigned? Human beings do commit crimes as horrific as this, and unless they are mentally disabled, the blame rests with the person committing the crime. There might be some 'mitigating' circumstances that a judge might factor in when deciding the sentence.

    Going with the theme of the thread - if we look at what causes this kind of sad incident is that "settling down" a son or daughter is considered the responsibility of the parent. It is considered as the parent's responsibility by society, the parents, and the child also.

    It is not enough if the child is educated and able to go out and make a living. This emphasis on "settling down" and that having to happen with the help and approval of parents is I think the root cause of such incidents.
     
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    Agree Rihanna.....I started the thread after reading the responses to the news report.A large number were putting the blame on the father and the brother for not taking care of the responsibility.The women were in their thirties and educated. How long can one take responsibility?
     
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