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  1. Jul 8, 2014 #1
    Meghaa

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    Just feeling alone and low . Need to vent.

    My mother is manipulative and lies more than she speaks the truth (if ever).

    Its second nature to her now . I dont think she can help it even IF she wanted to.

    I dont live in India. Recently I have reduced call time with her as I dont want to be fed with all the lies and deal with all the manipulation. Even though I know her , I will end up believing some of her lies and falling victim to her manipulations.

    I cant help wishing I had a mother i could talk to. I dont have any sisters nor friends.

    I do have a brother - he stops talking to me whenever he is going thru a messy phase in life ( which is very often coz of his bad decisions) . Other times he is good. But it takes a toll on me everytime he gets aloof. So I feel like I should just move on and not expect anything from him.

    Feeling alone....

    I do have a great hubby!
     
    Meghaa, Jul 8, 2014
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  2. Jul 8, 2014 #2
    Radhai

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    Life compensates. console1
     
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    shrutimanjunath

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    Hey don't worry same here. Same pinch. My hubby is my everything. Once I married him, I got to know what's life, what's love what's relationship what's commitment what's sacrifice what's forgiveness. I married him at 22 yrs. now I'm 26 and I just love him to the core. I can tell him anything n everything and he listens to it. Life has compensated. I'm happy.
     
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    seekingbless

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    tats so sweet. :2thumbsup:
     
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    pantu

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    You have a great hubby that is all. Just enjoy his friendship.
     
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    muthuswathi

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    As a mother she will have her own reasons may right or wrong.
    Good or bad, after all she is your mother. Keep basic contact always alive.
    That is my personal opinion.
    Enjoy your hubby relationship as God's gift!
     
    muthuswathi, Jul 10, 2014
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    piyaali

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    you are not alone i have same type of mother n now i scares that dont know meri saasu maa kesi hogi , only god knows.

    well i m speaking from my experience it hurts , hurts , hurts n only hurts no cure of this pain.
     
    piyaali, Jul 30, 2014
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    Meghaa

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    Cool! Guess we are the same. I dint find my hubby until I was 27 .... And now I am waiting to be blessed with our child.
    The universe does try very hard to teach me patience before it hands me my reward.
     
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    Meghaa

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    Yes , its never wise to cut contact completely with anyone - not just your family. So I do call her - but less frequently and also the calls are shorter.
     
    Meghaa, Sep 17, 2014
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    Meghaa

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    Piyali - the best way to deal with it is to stop expecting from them and focus your energy on how you can avoid or cope better with similar situations. It wont solve the problem but it will help you more and more with each change in thought/expectation that you make.
     
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