Working Mom vs Homemaker Mom

Hi Vani

Yes, a mom does a great job whether she is a working mom or a homemaker mom. The role of a mother is definitely not to be taken lightly.

A mother's love is unconditional with no expectations in return. I try to do my best for my child because I love him so much and without my expecting it, he 'rewards' me with such loving hugs and kisses. He makes me feel like a zillion dollars!

Hi Kavitha

Welcome to Indus Ladies!

Wow! How do you manage twin kids? Are they identical or different?

I can see how you have managed to sort out your work and home and you are doing justice to both. That is a good idea as you can keep an eye on the child minder as well.

A sincere advice to all the young mothers is 'Don't bite more than you can chew'. If you feel you are doing justice to both home and career, then it is fine. But on the contrary, if you feel earning that extra income(for income sake and not for job satisfaction) is more important than spending time with your child, then I would reconsider as you would be missing out on your child's special moments. I could also see one main topic for discussion in this forum which was an answer in itself. Most young mothers complain that their young kids often fall sick and they feel bad leaving them as they have to go to work. The positive side to it is that they develop an immunity at an early age, but from another point of view, is it because Moms leave their babies as young as 3 months old(or even younger) when their milk is what builds up their child's resistance to infections. I know you can express it and leave it in the fridge to be given later, but if you feel that you dont have time, or cant be bothered, or feel that the alternate milk available is just as good, then be prepared to face the consequence that your child will constantly be falling ill. Of course it is another matter altogether if you have a problem with milk production(which is also supposed to reduce due to stress). I am not finding fault but am merely stating obvious facts.

So my advice is that you spend at least the first year with your baby. Why have a baby when you are not able to spend time with him/her? Have your baby when you don’t have commitments and enjoy that beautiful period which nothing can get back.

Well, to conclude, I shall say if it works for you and keeps you happy, then go for it. But before you make the decision, weigh the pros and cons, think about the consequences, and if it will be worth it, then by all means pursue your goal. But don't complain. If you took a decision, stick to it and deal with the outcome as you were the cause for it to happen.