Manage a stubborn child

How do u manage a stubborn child.

I have a 3yr old who is very stubborn. She will not listen to me do just the opposite of what i tell her. even in the school she refuses to do her school work.
i really dont know how to handle her
pls give some tips

Hi,

Handling a stubborn child is a tough job. But you have to. Adamant child needs to be dealt in a soft way rather than being harsh in turn. If u are harsh then she would turn aggressive..Girls are far better than boys in understanding. Though she's just 3, she would be able to understand you better if u are kind to her. Find her likes and dislikes and sort it out accordingly.

what about school work and home work. how do i encourage her to do work

hello Fragrance,
Dont worry she is only 3. Talk to her teacher about ur childs character. They will take care of her. My niece was also like this .earlier she wont do any school work at home.Then my SIL talked to the teacher ,they are somehow making her done all the school work at scholl only. But now she is five and improved a lot............love ,soji

Originally Posted by fragrance

How do u manage a stubborn child.

I have a 3yr old who is very stubborn. She will not listen to me do just the opposite of what i tell her. even in the school she refuses to do her school work.
i really dont know how to handle her
pls give some tips

dear fragrance,
these children are very intelligent and they know how to make the others dance to their tune, so u have to start with prove me kind of stuff,
if you can prove u r behaving well then i can think about getting u nice stuff for the coming festival,
u can say when you do these things they will think so bad about ur self u may loose good friends in the long run.
only when u take an interest will i know how clever u r
show me whether u can draw i was never able to u know
i know you r great at keeping your dresses clean see mommy's dress nice naa
if you can eat without spilling i know u r a growing beautiful girl
when u get angry i feel very sad that i am not able to make u smile
u dont love me dear
i lupppppppppppppppp u soooooooooooooo much
each time something done good i used to give my daughter a double kichi now what is this
i sit down on a sofa and she sits facing me on my legs with both legs on both sides and we both will kiss each other on the opposite side of the mouth at the same time, and with intense..
it worked really well for me..
many more but try some and let me know..sunkan

here is also another point i went in search for about your problem...
She was the angel at home, always listening to instructions, giving me no problems at all. All of a sudden, she turned into a stubborn child, one who doesn’t want to do as told. It was difficult to get her to finish her meals, difficult to get her to wash her hair, difficult to get her to sit in the car seat and difficult to get her to do most of the things.

It may be a transition phase when she develops her characteristics and her own personality but hey, as a parent, I got to do something, don’t I?

So, we use a special “tool” to get her to behave.

Our special “tool”:



What’s in that little kitty that made her behave? Well, we made the little girl the “Jie Jie” (Elder sister) and made the kitty “the baby”. Her new role as an elder sister is to look after the baby and show good example to the baby so that the baby would grow up to be a good child.

Now, this little stubborn girl became the GOOD JIE JIE, doing things which she refused to do previously, trying to show good example to the little baby.

There, that took care of her stubbornness............ for awhile and I'm waiting to see how long it will last. happy trying dear..sunkan

thanks for the tips sunkan i m surely going to try it. after starting school last month she has become very clingy to me and everything i have to do for her. she wont allow her dad also to do anything for her. before also she was stubborn but independent - eat her own food. put her clothes away but now she has become more than before