FM of your family

Dear all,

Let me first ask the qn.first "who is the Finance Minister of your family".

IN Those days , women were not allowed to handle cash.For each and everything they had to depend on their dhs or fils for the money.But this is not the case now.In Many families fms are women.Do you think this is unnecessary burden because i felt it that way.
In my family,due to my dh nature of work, i am the FM of the family.initial years,when i was offered the FM post, i was very very happy and very proud infact(my dh told me,he is very weak in handling money matters).I handled all our asset matters alone as he could not spend time for anything.But now i feel the other way.I had been to us for 5 months.During the 5 months,My dh was taking care of all money matters and i was very very happy spending my time cooking etc.Really i was very much astonished seeing his way of spending money.Now i feel He is best FM than me.But i have returned to india and have to take care of everything.Now if he takes the responsibility i would be very happy which is not possible.

dear friends do you think Men are best FMs?In your family who is FM? or you both decide everything?.SHare your views.

Hi Krithika,
Im the ex-FM of my house. In the initial years of marriage every bill wud be routed thru me for approval. I wud have time to make bank reconciliation statements too (since im from accounting b/ground) but now after a decade of marriage and now with 2 additions to the family, i have voluntarily resigned from this post and let my hubby gracefully take this seat.
So as of now, my hubby is the FM and im the HM...home minister.

hi happy woman,

As your name says,you are a happy woman.You are lucky,you got the VRS so soon.Thanks for posting.

It depends on how good that partner is and comfortable to do the job.

We don't have any designated positions ... if hes busy, I do it and vice versa. When it comes to major spending/investment.. we both discuss and come to a solution and act on that goal :)

dear nandu,

As you said,It is always good to discuss on major spendings.sharing resp will reduce our mental burdens to a greater extent.In my case,i am the fm,hm,pm,president ........
Sometimes i feel bored.BUt this has made my dh a star performer of his co.so i take it as a sweet burden.

Dear krithika,

Good topic.. Both me and my DH are the FM's of our house. We both decide on the major issues / investments. There are times he would want to spend on something where i would feel its unimportant or vice versa. As we have a good understanding and respect each other's feelings, things run smoothly. There's always a book besides the cash box. As and when we take the money we would make a note of the expense. At the end of each month would discuss about the expenses and try to cut down on a few.

Dear sharada,

Thanks for posting.Maintaining cash box and a note is a very good idea.I will try to follow that idea.Thanks again for the good idea.

I am FM in day to day matter but when major decisions taken we both discuss and take the decision. But on whatever we spend we speak out each other so both of us know where we are spending. No restrictions on spending.............

In our case, it is my husband. He is the finance guy in our household.. As for me, my ears and mind all get blocked the moment the word finance is uttered. He does discuss all important issues with me, but if the conversation gets too technical, I kind of lose interest and say "yes, yes" to whatever he has in mind... not very clever, I admit...

Dear aarushi,

thanks for stepping in.You are very lucky.I get the same reaction from my husband,if i talk something serious(on money matters).

Originally Posted by Aarushi

In our case, it is my husband. He is the finance guy in our household.. As for me, my ears and mind all get blocked the moment the word finance is uttered. He does discuss all important issues with me, but if the conversation gets too technical, I kind of lose interest and say "yes, yes" to whatever he has in mind... not very clever, I admit...