what kind of family are you

hey guys thought I d share this with you dh and me went to a friends house ,the couple had 4 kids,ages 8,,6,4 and3 the kids wewre so quiet,so orderly,the house was like silent you couldnt hear a pin drop,the kids were sitting so quietly it was unbelievable because we werw there for about 4 hours,I couldnt believe itso I asked the wife are your kids always like that,is your home always so spic and span she replied yes.
as soon as I got inthe car me and dh saiad at the same time did you see those kids wecould not believe it ,dh later told thats how they are supposed no yelling anything every one speaks with resecpt even the wife the dh is boss.I t suddenlyv got e thining what kind of family are you a quietfamaily with dh as the boss or a noisy family
asfor me mine is a ver noisy family with plenty of laughter and happiness.it is not a sterile home where you are afraid to drop something.,it always has evidence theres a child around and as I openrd my door all the happiness and colour was there.

Originally Posted by peaches n cream

.it is not a sterile home where you are afraid to drop something.,it always has evidence theres a child around and as I openrd my door all the happiness and colour was there.

Our living room actually looks more like a Pre-school than a house - and yes I have had far too many people tell me that they can hear us (DS and me ie.) at the end of the street so they know when we are home

Vanathi.

hi,i think i hv met such kind of ppl.same thought also droppd in.therefore i like my home as warm and easy n relaxin one.though its only a nulear family,v try 2 interact,share n equally give space!!!ishd b thankful u made me share dis.

Hi there,

we are 6 in the family, mum, dad, my 2 sisters and one brother we are so nosiy that if htere is no noise in the house my dad would say that he has come into the wrong house. we have our meals together and there is so much of laughter, hapiness and so much noise gping on that people would think that there are children in the house adn we are all adults.
we are nosiy family

love
alpa

We are mostly a quiet family and often end up just listening to music, watching movies, DVDs together, cracking jokes... just the usual stuff. But our neighbours or people in DH's office always tell us we are the quiet type and Dear son is always well-behaved in DH's office when he is babysat there. Most of DH's colleague do wonder how DS manages to spend at least 3 hours so quietly.
I usually take care of DS's outdoors and playtime and we have fun doing a lot of stuff in our garden. I think it is my child's temperament and also the adults to not make a big deal about having fun.
When Ds was around 1, I bought a book called Montessori from the start. The book spoke about children who were 18 months old who could fix themselves a snack of apple, coring and cutting it into tiny pieces with a blunt knife. The book also showed example after example of children doing their own chores, replacing their toys, books, helping parents in keeping the house clean. I started following the examples and voila, DS puts away his books and his play stuff. I do have to remind him once in a while, but I can see he is going to be organised.
No, our house is not spic and span and not sterile (I am not sure what your connotation for that word is). The montessori from start methodology we are following trains a child to be ordered and organised in his thoughts and action. And I am learning from him.
We make it a point to treat our son with respect even if we are practising playful parenting. He is not scared of either of us, I would think being respectful of his needs and he of ours has taken care of that.

I had a neighbour, who was like that. the house was always sparkling and clean, both the sons were fun loving and naughty but not in their house, but in others. many a times, I have had the house like a war zone after they all left.
though i put my foot, when the boy(was 9) hit my DS( he was 4) saying that he was not supposed to sit on the bed (kid's room) as his father would scold him if the bedspread gets wrinkled..

Coming to us, we are a fun loving, family. When all of us were together, weekends, will be relaxed, fun, family time. my DS practices swinging his bat inside the bedrooms, we leave books under our pillow. they can manage on their own from a young age. they greet the guest and leave the room most of the time, unless needed.

Other times, you can always hear the singing, arguments from the starting of the street..

DH likes the home neat, but he always says home is not a museum. oh there is so much noise. cannot imagine kids and silence unless one of them is sick.

My house is usually a mad-house, with a Pre-Ker and an infant. My DD is an active, energetic child, who is usually bouncing off the walls while DS is always seeking attention. I have given up trying to keep my place clean and organized because it just isn't going to happen. I *have* tried the "The toys belong in your room, DD!" routine, but it does not work. She loves being in the same room as her brother, and, since DS is usually in the living room, DD is also there, toys et al!

It is so funny to see the two kids together. DS seems to simply love his big sister, and his face lights up and is all smiles whenever he sees DD. His beaming face is usually DD's cue to start giggling. Her chuckling sets DS off, and pretty soon, both are laughing hysterically, but no one has a clue what the joke is all about! This is our daily routine - our house is a place of non-stop laughter, and ZERO order.

We are kind of noisy sometimes but mostly tolerable (by neighbors).

Both my dds are always busy playing with each other. They really do not feel the necessity to go out and make friends though I say that each one should have their own friends. They have some friends who are common to both.
As soon as they return from school they run around and giggle, tickle,tease each other and then suddenly there is some big loud sound and I know someone fell down or pushed someone or something fell ..... That is it...then there is blaming each other,yelling,shouting and then when I intervene and give a big shout......it settles down. It is like the day when the there is thunderstorm, lightning and then sudden downpour and then sunny when it stops. The same pattern in my house.
Dh is kind of quiet guy. It is always me and my dds sound that people can hear outside but mostly neighbors say we are quiet....are they trying to be just polite? Don't know.
As for cleanliness and orderliness...I give it a big tick. Yeah, I can say my house is orderly. I do not have to search for things and I insist the same thing in my kids too. I just don't like some people how they keep on searching for everything. I am at peace only when I know all things are in their proper place. Both me and dh are like that. I just don't like how messy some houses are and can't perceive how anyone can live like that.


Adara

thanks Aadhus momI know what you mean I too feel we are the noiset family on the street,my daughter wakes at 6 45 and my son at 6 so my mornings start very early with their noise and presence,and my son can give all the noise and clutter alone even when his sister is at school.

thanks for sharing alpangab,
Alpa I share the same kind of family as you 2 sisters and 1 brother and boy when me and my sister get togeher at moms house weekly we literally bring the house down,so much talking and laughing and noise whe we all get together,its a wonderfil feeling.