am i really ready for kids????

hi
i have been marrried since last 3 yrs,initially we had pressures from my in-laws,but we were not settled at that time,and also we did not want to have kids at that time as we were just married and wanted to enjoy life,and ofcourse needed to be matured and financially sound enough to take responsibility to incarnate a new life.
we r now seriously thinking to start a family,its not like that i dont like kids,infact i love to be around them,but i dont know why i m scared,i think i get horrified by pregnancy complications,labour pains.........i really do want to conceive but little sceptical about it???

dear manisha,
pregnancy is something u need to look in with not the pain but the other factors, like once u r ready mentally, I MEAN THIS, for the simple reason, ur body will reject pregnancy or will come up with various complications, so u need to be mentally prepared first, then coming to the pain part of it, these days c section available, where u dont know anything abt the pain and u can lead a wonderful life after that, but the other factors of a mother, is a beautiful experience on its own, by the sixth week sometime u experience this unco-ordinated bubble inside u, going up and down, then comes a time where even the direction of ur sleep has to be changed because the baby is uncomfortable inside, once the moments start u involuntariy feel one more life inside u, then as u progress from the khatta in the third month sometime u like certain foods, and another thing mentally make up that ur going to be fine, enjoy music the great soother,and do all things favourite, like swimming also which is good for u, once pregnancy starts, u have to make more positive approach, for the future of the child's mental development, the more depressed u r ,the child may come out with a depressed attitude,and some skin disease and so on, so keep the top cool i mean the head and plan bringing a life into this world. it is the best god has given woman the experience, and man can share if he can make effort to understand the growth of mental and physical developments..hope been of help regards sunkan

Hi Manisha !! Well , i was just as scared as u r now abt pregnancy,pains and all !! I have a 5 month old baby gal now and my whole world revolves around her, First os all,as Sunkan said,u have to be mentally prepared for it,or else it will have adverse effect on the baby !! After reading ur mail i feel that u r scared of pains and the complications,so tht's y u r feeling that u may not be ready for having the baby !! Believe u me,I am even scared of getting 1 injection and i handled those 9 months and the delivery all on my own with my hubby. I wud not say that it's peanuts to have babies,but once u get preg and start to feel ur baby within urself,u'll fall in luv with her. C-Section delivery is one option but if u wanna have a normal delivery then too they can be pain free with Epidurals,many of my friends have had safe , painfree normal delivery with Epidural. U can find more abt them with ur gyne once u conceive. And lastly i wud like to add that whn the moment comes i dunno from whr u get so much of strength and whn u see ur baby u forget all the pains :)) I just tried to punch in my experience to help u in someways,if u r ready then just go ahead,gud luck !!

golden

hi manisha

i think whatever fear is htere in u,most of us had it when we were thinking of having babies....so this fear is sumthing very very natural......all u need to do is to start believing in urself....u keep telling to u tht u can take the pain for ur baby....its gonna be the symbol of ur love life.....and imagine the smiling face of ur baby...so start thinking nice things abt ur baby and am sure this wud help u thru the process....just tune ur mind to accept anything...during my labor..i kept on telling myself tht I CAN DO IT....mine was supposed to be a c-section but happened to be a normal delivery.....so start builiding the confidence and am sure u will succeed in it...dun think anything negative abt preganancy n delivery....just bear in mind at the end u will see UR BUNDLE OF JOY in ur hands..tht will itself motivate u to have ur baby !!!

Good Luck..

lov
sowmini